TTC after MC - nice people in crap times, full of posifrickingtivity

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WillSantaComeAgain Tue 02-Apr-13 13:49:18

Welcome aboard ladies (though obviously sorry you have to be here). We're a friendly bunch so come in and plump up a cushion for POAS Fridays and lots of posifrickingtivity. With a few (gentle) fish slaps thrown in for good measure.

Bakingtins Tue 02-Apr-13 20:11:29

Hi LDT and of course you can join. I'm very sorry you are miscarrying, and I think it's a very normal reaction to want to TTC straight away - sort of righting a wrong to be pregnant again.
IBIP glad it is going ok so far, hope you get safely past your milestone at the weekend and have a good scan. Come back and tell us when it is all ok?

Bakingtins Tue 02-Apr-13 20:19:00

Gardenworm can I ask what happened about your TSH? Mine is 2.9, described as 'normal' by the receptionist, and I think yours was in the same ballpark. I will ask consultant next week but would be interested to know if you needed any further tests in the end.
thunder how long until yours gets rechecked now?

LittleBairn Tue 02-Apr-13 20:38:30

ltd yes absolutely had a really strong need to be pregnant again, it actually felt a very primal reaction.

Hi pink, l

ldt87 Tue 02-Apr-13 20:43:53

Has anyone got pregnant easily following a miscarriage? I'm so worried about how long it took us to get pregnant in the first place.

Oops!

Was trying to say its looking good! Sunday is fast approaching, you're nearly there! Well done.

tins hit blood test this week but I might put it back til next week actually. I'll have been on the meds 4 weeks next tues and from what I read this is a good point to get it checked (apparently 4-6 weeks is when it should have all kicked in). Sounds to me like yours is probably absolutely fine (it apparently fluctuates throughout the day even) but is worth keeping an eye on.

ltd hi, and sorry you're here. I had that urge too, hope you aren't with us too long.

LittleBairn Tue 02-Apr-13 20:49:46

itd I've heard of many who got pregnant quickly almost like it gives their body a hormonal kick start, in fact many of the midwives and Drs mentioned it.
But there are no firm rules to MC I got pregnant quickly but I'm now struggling to get pregnant again.

Yep lots of people get pg quickly after mc.

MrsExcited Tue 02-Apr-13 21:12:26

Marking place

Hi to LTD

On holiday at the mo which is helping with the positivity, so hello from somewhere in the sahara!

ChocolateCremeEggBag Tue 02-Apr-13 21:12:42

Hi LTD - I spent a week on the sofa reading MN and the other site threads about people conceiving straight away after mc. There are lots of them! And I think it's a totally normal reaction.

I got pg first month of trying for DC2 (my DSis 2.5) but now in 3rd cycle post mc and still have weirdness

Will try to POAS on Friday if AF hasn't found me

alyant79 Tue 02-Apr-13 22:44:34

Yay zeu and hopefully chocolate poas buddies.

Hi ltd. so sorry for you, what a crappy weekend. like choc I spent ages reading all these positive stories of people getting pg basically as soon as physically possible. Am now waiting for my very first cycle (had to have follow up erpc 4 weeks later which cost me a month) so we will see. not feeling overly hopeful will have a bfp!!

Sal1977 Wed 03-Apr-13 00:08:59

Hi All, found the new thread!

Hello to lTD, sorry you are here and I totally get the need to get up-duffed quickly again following MC. I had an ERPC on Thursday so just a couple of days ahead of you.

I am amazed by people to be honest. A couple of family members who were brilliant last week before and just after the op, texted me today saying "did you have a nice Easter weekend?"....WTF??? I felt like replying "well considering I had my womb hoovered out 5 days ago removing a very much wanted baby, I have had better Easter weekends". Instead I replied "it was a quiet one...".

DP emailed the friends yesterday....it was brilliant! They have said they will wait for us to contact them....phew!

alyant79 Wed 03-Apr-13 07:19:30

You should have told them off sal. I guess people don't realise how slow time passes afterwards and how bad the hormone crash is. My mum said exactly the same to me shortly after. Nearly strangled her.
Even my dh, when we found out that I needed the extra erpc said "oh well, it's only another 4 weeks added, think how quickly the last four have passed"!!!!!! I couldn't believe it, they were the slowest and most horrible ever. It really brought home that even though he had been upset at first, because it isn't his body, it really isn't the same.

In fairness, before my mc I didn't understand either.

alyant79 Wed 03-Apr-13 07:21:44

Ps sal that's great that your friends were so understanding

And yay for Sahara holidays mrs

Hi all,

Good re holidays and understanding friends!

Cd14 and still no smiley here...where are you eggy?!

DIYandEatCake Wed 03-Apr-13 09:40:46

sal, wait til you have mil going 'are you trying again yet? We could have a baby for Christmas, ooh, wouldn't that be nice?' Um, yes, but not all of us can have babies to order...

ldt I can sort of understand your fears, dd took 18 months trying, the baby I miscarried only took 6 though. I'm kind of afraid our next one might be more like 18 months again, it's so hard trying month after month isn't it and then we're back to square 1. Did you have any investigations into why it took so long? We have issues with dp's swimmers but at least we know it is possible.

Even though I know pg is extremely unlikely this month, I still can't stop that bit of deluded hope creeping in. Will have to stock up on wine for the weekend (af due sat or sun I think, no poas Friday though as really I know it will be negative).

LittleBairn Wed 03-Apr-13 09:59:43

sal I got the "nice Christmas..." hmm yes it was great fun choosing a headstone and I now have a favourite brand of maternity pad.

Does anyone do anything specific to help with conception?

I'm planning next months action plan:
Buy new CBFM sticks
Start taking Evening primrose oil
Take Folic Acid, wait for my mega prescription.
DTD (kinda necessary...)
Eat well and keep active
Search for Angus Castus (maybe get it at holland & barret)
Cut caffeine to Zero
Do the serenity prayer each morning to help me chill out and relax about it
'God grant me the serenity
to accept the things I cannot change;
courage to change the things I can;
and wisdom to know the difference.'

Even considering a holiday if we book it last minute then I don't have to worry about being away while pregnant.

MrsSpencerReid Wed 03-Apr-13 10:10:02

Found you! Hello ltd, sorry you find yourself here. After three horrid, long days at work I am going back to bed now gringrinjust hope no one rings the doorbell!

Weaselicious Wed 03-Apr-13 10:13:45

Hello ladies might just hover for a while if that's ok as only just mc'd at five weeks and no decisions made about what to do next. Just want to soak up some posifrickingtivity xx

alyant79 Wed 03-Apr-13 10:35:40

foolishly symptom spotting: STARVING!!

DIY is there anything to be done about those sluggish swimmers? or do you just have to get lots of them up there and hope?
maybe you should poas friday with zeu and I. I'm expecting a bfn too

ChocolateCremeEggBag Wed 03-Apr-13 11:25:24

Hi Weasel - hover away - you don't have to be ttc-ing again to be here (shuffles up to make room)

I have given up on my CBFM this month - it's been given a stern talking to and will be facing the wall until it is either required again or will be sold as not needed. So will no doubt be back in use this weekend when AF gets me

Hurry up Friday - No idea if/when I ov'd but I have plenty of cheapy HPTS to waste.

SaggyOldClothCatPuss Wed 03-Apr-13 14:07:27

Helloo my lovelies. I hope wednesday finds you all in good spirits.
LDT, a sad welcome to you. Its a safe haven here, and do visit the Miscarriage board. There are some amazing people there.
WRT age, so far 37 is the oldest mentioned, well Im 38 at the end of the month, so you are all babies! grin
AF departed yesterday, so the plan for this month is to POAOPK starting tomorrow and then try to keep DTD a little more casual! Poor DP looked a little stunned last month, and neither of our heads ended up in a very good place.
MY LP seemed short last month, so Im going to keep track this month, then look into vitamin B6 if it runs short again.

DIYandEatCake Wed 03-Apr-13 15:08:39

alyant, only the usual stuff like healthy eating, exercise, reducing stress etc. I'm only going to poas before Monday if I get a migraine so I can be sure taking ibuprofen is ok - we missed the 2 best days this month due to in-laws staying (grr). Hate getting negative pg tests so only test when I'm deluded in with a real chance.

Just had a lovely morning with a friend and her 2 kids, including a 1 month old - I was fine with cuddling him, the hardest thing actually was seeing 2yo dd so completely besotted with him. She just loves babies. Just hit home that i should have been having one in 3 months' time. Hopefully we'll manage to have another before she outgrows her baby-loving phase!

cadidog Wed 03-Apr-13 15:44:20

Can I join too? I'm pretty sure I mc'd over the weekend. It was very early days in the pregnancy but since I had a scan last Thur at a EPAU the blob seemed very real to me (planning a first Xmas with baby) so losing it a few days later has been awful.

I had an appointment for another scan next Thur, so I called the EPAU this morning. Surprisingly they still want to see me so I guess I'll go. I think I've got a works party to attend that evening so I'll have to wear my game face that night. On the plus side I'll likely be able to drink so it's not all bad.

My crazy hormones totally want to get pregnannt again a.s.a.p. but I'm not sure another loss straight after this one would be great for my mental health.

AngelMummy2012 Wed 03-Apr-13 15:55:56

Hello Ladies can I join?

I lost my baby boy Riley at 23weeks on April 6th, its his first birthday Saturday sad. I fell pregnant instantly with him. I had to have 2 D&C's after and I got Pelvic Inflammatory disease.

We tryed again and found out we were expecting end of June after ithink amonth or 2, then got diagnoised with a over active thyroid. Lost 2 stone near enough instantly and lost my baby naturally at 7 weeks after 2 scans on August 16th.

Fell pregnant again end of November after about a month or 2. Had a big bleed, went for a scan at 6weeks no hb. Went again a week later and it confirmed baby had no hb. Had a D&C on 20th December as baby wasn't going to come naturally.

Been on the pill since then and me and my partner decided last week to try again, so nervous! We are making it fun and not worrying... kinda. Should be ovulating any day now! Sorry for the long post and grammar.. on my phone. You seem like a lovely bunch smile thanks

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