Trying to conceive after mc? Pregnant after MC and seeking somewhere safe to hide? Recently graduated from the mosh pit? Come on down to the mosh pit for some serious metalling and cake part 5

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Hoping the new thread brings a plethora of BFPs and lots of healthy arrivals!

Polka2 Thu 17-Oct-13 14:00:57

allboxed was your mw anyhelp about referring you sooner? My mw and dr have been great and have said (as have EPU) that I can call and come in for a scan anytime due to my history (1mmc and 2mc) and I'm 10wk5 and have had 3 scans so far and have felt alot calmer/less completely terrified about it all. If they can't help I'd definately recommend a private scan. Very good luck.

AllBoxedUp Fri 18-Oct-13 12:43:50

Thanks for the replies and sorry for taking so long to reply. I got my NHS scan appointment yesterday and it was for 3 weeks today (which will be over 13 weeks if you take my short cycle into account). I had tried phoning the EPU and they said unless I had pain or bleeding I couldn't get a scan.
So, in the end I have booked a private scan for a week on Sunday. I know there is still a chance things can go wrong but I just want to check. Thanks for the support. Having a crazy week as I had an 2nd interview for an internal promotion in a different team and I found out today I have got it (if I can negotiate on hours). I feel really guilty about the pregnancy and feel I'm being dishonest but I really want the job and things may not work out anyway. Hope everyone else is ok.

oo00PIXIE00oo Fri 18-Oct-13 18:38:35

Hi ladies I'm still here lurking in the background but must admit am finding it more and more difficult dealing with all your good news and I'm mortified that I should be so mean and jealous - sorry sad

AF is due tomorrow and I don't think she will be late .......

Congratulations MrsHP and Polka ... And to all the new babies x

Can everyone please start nagging more on this thread so I can start a new one ;)

Have a great weekend x

pixie don't apologise, I know too well that horrible, horrible feeling of being pleased but insanely jealous and teary and sad at the same time. I think I must be completely natural and there is no way to control it. I had tbh given up to some extent, got a new job, got rid of everything baby related from our house and it just happened eventually, it took over 2.5 years in the end and for me it was the weight I think that was the real difference. I shall keep talking so you can start the new thread obvs... I will keep everything crossed for you xxx

oo00PIXIE00oo Fri 25-Oct-13 18:37:26

Hi mrshp thanks for the kind words, unfortunately AF arrived on schedule sad and I think I'm out of chances am 43 now and have had 3 mc's in the last 18 months the third one back in May since then nothing .....

Will probably have to wait to become a granny now (DH has 2 DDs from a previous 15&18 and I have 1 DD from a previous 10). I asked DH what he wanted for Christmas today and unfortunately he said a son sad oh well it's half term and the 10 year old is of to her G/parents that gives us a week though I'm sure I'm going to stop trying soon - have a great weekend all xx

So sorry pixie, big hugs to you.xxx

AllBoxedUp Sun 27-Oct-13 19:36:48

Hope this isn't an insensitive post but I had a private scan today and I am 12 weeks pregnant. pixie I really hope things work out for you and I can really understand how you are feeling. Since I had my mc my heart has sank when people have told me their news about pregnancies and I had gone through a lot less than you. I am definitely going to handle telling people this differently compared to how I did with DS (no scan pics on facebook anyway). Thanks for the support on here - sorry I haven't been on here more but it was great to have a place to post and get everything out. I will now go and lurk on other bits of Mumsnet.

oo00PIXIE00oo Fri 15-Nov-13 17:49:12

Can I whisper very quietly...... I'm two days late [hmmm]

justhayley Fri 15-Nov-13 23:25:02

Hiya,
can I join?

I had a MC in September and have started TTC again this month.
Will be POAS on November 22nd, (mine & DPs anniversary) am almost petrified of getting a BFP, for fear of another MC, so thought I'd hide out here.

My cycles are completely irregular & DP is military only coming home at weekends so TTC is HARD!
He had 3 weeks leave in August which we were determined to get a BFP. He'l have the same over Christmas so if I'm not pregnant now I better be inJanuary.

I have 1 DS aged 19 months (today). Thats it really please hold my hand for the next week.

X

oo00PIXIE00oo Mon 18-Nov-13 16:36:47

Hi Hayley welcome to the thread and am sorry you have found yourself here fingers crossed for you on the 22nd - I have given in to temptation and will be poas this evening I'm 5 days late and sick with nerves.

Have had 2 mc and 1 mmcs in the last 18 months this seems to be a lucky thread for the ladies on here so I will hold your hand if you hold mine

oo00PIXIE00oo Tue 19-Nov-13 21:52:54

Hello is there anybody there confused I just got a bfp and have no one to share it with and hold my hand for the fourth time lucky .........

NutcrackerFairy Wed 20-Nov-13 07:48:21

PIXIE congratulations!

I have also been lurking on this thread.

Had MMC in September, TTC and AF just arrived this morning so feeling a bit low.

I am 40 and feel that time is running out... but still hoping...

I have all my fingers crossed for you and hope you have a lovely healthy baby in 9 months time!!!!

flowers

oo00PIXIE00oo Wed 20-Nov-13 18:20:32

Hi fairy don't give up yet ....... I'm 43 x

jass43 Wed 20-Nov-13 18:29:13

i am not of this thread (too scary mc history to come here), but pixie you felt lonely so congrats here on your bfp and yes, it can very well be 4th time lucky! At our age, 3mc can easily be still bad egg problem and nothing more, so everything crossed you got that golden egg now!

oo00PIXIE00oo Wed 20-Nov-13 19:58:13

Thanks jass smile

justhayley Thu 21-Nov-13 00:06:34

Thanks for the welcome and CONGRATULATIONS pixie grin hope this baby is the one you get to cuddle. You must be so excited/nervous/petrified!
Hope your doing ok keep us updated xxx

Jollyb Thu 21-Nov-13 21:07:15

Pixie yay!!!!!!!!

Welcome Hayley too.

Jollyb Thu 21-Nov-13 21:07:50

Good luck for tomorrow

justhayley Thu 21-Nov-13 23:55:48

So today I found out my friend is pregnant with twins, & my very best friend is currently in labour - not effecting me at all obviously been insanely jealous & in a bad mood totally excited all daysmile.
Testing in the morning & am crazy nervous

oo00PIXIE00oo Thu 21-Nov-13 23:56:45

Thanks jolly fingers crossed for tomorrow hayley

Hessy Sun 24-Nov-13 15:52:20

Just to say hello. My mmc was in October. I was desperate to conceive before my first AF after mc as I couldn't bear the finality of knowing I definitely wasn't pregnant anymore (stupid as the mc was horrific and clearly there was no doubt).

That's all. Just saying hello.smile

justhayley Mon 25-Nov-13 22:32:01

smilesmilesmile hi all just wanted to update you - I got a BFP on Friday. So happy but feel as though I can't get excited yet. I'm so frightened of having another MC. Really want to enjoy my pregnancy even at this early stage but finding it harder than I thought I would. By LMP I'm 6 weeks today although by conception date I'm more likely 5+2/3.
When I had my MC GP said the nx time I conceive I should get an early scan at 6 weeks. Called straight away on Friday and can't get an appointment until December 5th which seems forever away.

oo00PIXIE00oo Tue 26-Nov-13 20:42:51

Hi hessy welcome and I'm sorry you have found yourself here sad unfortunately on here we have all been in the same boat so you are in great company x

hayley I have been checking in waiting to hear from you smile smile today you ARE pregnant!!

AFM I'm 5+2 and worrying everyday. After my first mc I have had an early reassurance scan for the last 2 pgs but both have ended badly - DH and I have decided to let nature take its course. I haven't managed to get past 10 weeks so will contact the GP once I get (fx) past that point shock I know I must be mad but I don't think I can go through through the dildo cam again and be told 'I'm sorry your pregnancy is not progressing' am I utterly crazy?

oo00PIXIE00oo Tue 26-Nov-13 20:59:14

Oh forgot to say my EDD is my first wedding anniversary smile hope it's a good sign

hazchem Mon 02-Dec-13 00:51:52

Can I join in here please?

I had a D&C on the 20th of November. Dr has said to wait for 2 periods but OH and I decided to start TTC straight away. I feel a bit mad about doing that but am hoping it will help give me some perspective to stop punishing my body by over eating!

I've got one DS and fell pregnant quickly both times. I guess I'm nervous this time because I think I'll find those first few week really anxious.

When would I test if I had a D&C should I just add 28 days? Which is pretty much my cycle.

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