Slap in the Face!

[PinkCustard]

So I received an unintended metaphorical slap in the face yesterday and would like to share:

I have been TTC a 2nd baby for 3 years. After almost 2 years I finally got pregnant but then had an early mc. 6 months later I got pregnant again, but sadly had a mmc at 12 weeks. I've since been trying for a further 7 months but no more luck yet. Was discussing TTC with a friend yesterday who knows my story and who is also TTC. She innocently asked me whether I'd come to terms with the fact that I might never have another child...I said no I hadn't and that at 36 I feel I have a few more years to try yet and am hopeful it will eventually turn out ok.

But her question made me feel a bit panicky - I am nowhere near ready to accept that, and feel desperately sad at the thought that I wouldn't have another child. But am I kidding myself that I will have a successful pregnancy..??

[Soph80]

You say 'another' child? So you've already successfully had one baby? xx

[PinkCustard]

Yes I have DS who's 5.

[marshmallowqueen]

I am almost 37, never been pregnant and still hoping for 1 child. Take comfort in the fact you know you can conceive and keep trying. I have a friend who had dd no 2 at the age of 40 following a mmc. Try to stay positive and keep at it! X

[PinkCustard]

Thanks Marshmallowqueen Yes I am incredibly lucky to have my DS and all the recent TTC struggles have made me appreciate him even more. Good luck to you too. I'm doing my best to stay positive and hopeful, but every now and again something makes me panic that it'll never happen.

[Soph80]

pink - given that you have a successful pregnancy before, its not completely unlikely that you'll get pregnant again. Should the worst happen and you don't, then at least you still have your DS. Stay positive and good luck xxx