Hi ladies,
I had a termination in december, I was 12 weeks pg and the scan showed the baby had anencephaly, with no chance of survival. I am slowly getting over it, and am very keen to TTC again as soon as possible, I think that being pregnant again will help, and obviously still want another baby (we already have a 2 year old boy). My DH is less keen though, he is still getting over the trauma of what happened, which is perfectly natural, but he is worried about the risk of another baby with a neural tube defect and going through all this again. He is also worried about me having a severe pph, because when my son was born I lost 7.2 litres of blood, and then when I gave birth to my little baby last month I lost 650ml, which is just about classed as a pph, and is double the amount of blood loss they expected for being 12 weeks pg. Therefore there is a fairly good chance that if I have another baby I'll lose a reasonable amount of blood. This (quite rightly) scares DH, but I'm not too worried about it, and have spoken to a couple of midwives about it, who said that as long as they are aware, they can be proactive in managing blood loss and controlling it. They didn't seem to think it was a particularly big problem.
So, has anyone else been in a similar situation? What did you do? If/when you became pg again did it help you and your partner come to terms with your grief for the lost baby?
Thanks in advance for your advice
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TTC after termination due to abnormality, need to convince DH it's ok
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owainsmum · 21/01/2013 13:41
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