Anyone want to scream with me?

(70 Posts)
getoffthecoffeetable Wed 03-Oct-12 20:00:40

Have been TTC for a while now. Yet again, can feel tell tale signs that am about to come on, again. Gutted. Not helped by the flippant comment DH made this morning when he asked if I was pregnant yet and what was taking so long this time. Am sure he didn't mean it to come out the way it sounded but was not amused.
Anyway, have DS upstairs asleep at the moment so can only do virtual screaming. Anyone want to join me?

Happilymarried155 Tue 18-Dec-12 22:19:45

No I wish it was! I'm never actually going to take contraception every again!!! smile

ifso Tue 18-Dec-12 20:50:15

just joining this thread, it has been a while, and am just a bit eh? since the warnings my mother gave me on contraception/pregnancy as a twenty year old!! and still trying as a 34yr old. I mean, that old thing about beingmcareful not to get pregnant, is so different when actually trying to get pregnant - it's not just as simple as going for it without contraception is it?

getoffthecoffeetable Tue 18-Dec-12 20:40:05

jen that's lovely news. So exciting! Fingers crossed your good luck rubs off on us all.
Happy Christmas all x

Happilymarried155 Tue 18-Dec-12 19:25:31

That's amazing! I'm so pleased, what a wonderful Christmas present! I too hope this is the start of luck for us all!! smile

jenrendo Tue 18-Dec-12 19:20:36

Had 6 week scan today and was extremely nervous that it would be twins or nothing there at all. Saw and heard one little heart beat flickering away. Merry Christmas everybody, and may my good luck rub off on you all in the New Year smile

jenrendo Thu 13-Dec-12 19:32:00

"Just relax, it'll happen when you're relaxed".......FUCK OFF!! I know how you feel Onemore. People just don't know what else to say really. They have no idea sad Getoff DS is loving Santa and all the sparkly lights that the crazy Canadians adorn their houses with but has no idea what Santa does. He loves all the glitter though. I have read him stories about Santa but he's still just a little young yet. Next year will be crazy!

Onemoreforgoodmeasure Thu 13-Dec-12 10:13:43

I'm also 40, two mc's this year. No children. Have lots my mind, I am fixated on the cycle of getting pg, being pg, mc'ing, recouperating, poasing on opks. Will we get to be a family? And I hate it when people try to reassure me with things they can't possibly know. "It'll hapen for you". ffs.

getoffthecoffeetable Wed 12-Dec-12 22:01:41

Hope you have a safe journey jen and a lovely Christmas, you've definitely had your present early! Does your DS understand Christmas? Mine is a bit oblivious at the moment bless him.
happily We were the same at Jen, I fell pregnant after a bout of drunken weddings so was very relaxed too. Have a great Christmas, looking forward to BFPs in the new year!

jenrendo Wed 12-Dec-12 19:13:26

It sure would Happily! It must be awful when they can't actually find anything 'wrong' with you. How frustrating. Maybe when you let yourself go over Christmas and get drunk a lot (?!) it will happen when you're most relaxed. That's what happened with DS. 2 cycles of IVF that year then a very drunken Christmas and New Year where we tried to drown our sorrows and resign ourselves to having no children. I was so off track with my cycle I didn't even know when AF was due and didn't find out I was pregnant until I was 7 weeks! We only had sex twice that month. It is soooooo fucking annoying when everyone else seems to have it so easy. Not fair sad At least IUI is free for 3 months smile

Happilymarried155 Wed 12-Dec-12 13:55:07

It is, I really try not to be sad about it but sometimes I'm just overcome with sadness about it all!

Jen, we get three goes of iui on the nhs and then one lot of Ivf, anything after that we find ourselves. I don't know how il cope of all that doesn't work!!! The annoying things is it being unexplained, the doctors says its just bad luck, but bad luck for two years when everyone seems to get pregnant after the first couple of months. Surely my bad luck has to end sometime!
Fingers crossed for a bfp for us all in jan, what a fantastic start the new year that would be smile

jenrendo Wed 12-Dec-12 01:26:13

I know. I had two days of being a big sulky mess every month and then looked forward to the day AF stopped so we could try all over again. It's extremely difficult though, especially after many months sad

getoffthecoffeetable Tue 11-Dec-12 19:23:32

I think it's only natural to get upset, I was too when AF arrived. I think you need to have a day or so having a sulk and then get right back on with trying again!
I love Christmas so am going to throw myself into the celebrations. Think positively, this time next year you could have a wee bundle to celebrate Christmas with!x

jenrendo Tue 11-Dec-12 18:30:03

Aw I have been waiting for you Happily sad You must really feel the pressure. I certainly did. The doc told me we would try 3 months on Letrozole then try IUI at $500 each month. Phew! Do you get it free? I am in Canada so no good old NHS here. I miss it!

Getoff it will be your turn soon. I want this thread to turn into one of those ones where everyone is pregnant in the next year smile

I am great, not feeling too bad yet, but I remember the sickness didn't kick in until 7 weeks last time. I fly back to Scotland next Wednesday so I'm hoping to feel ok for that delightful overnight 7 hour flight with DS and no DH. He is coming later. I have odd little feelings in my tummy but I suppose I am hyper aware now.

Hope you all have a lovely Christmas, and on the plus side you don't need to formulate wonderful stories to hide your pregnancy from everyone at the time of year when EVERYONE is drunk! Although I am looking forward to telling my parents. My sister is due 2 months before us. 2 more GCs to add to their boasting book. Thinking of you all and sending positive thoughts smile
Jxx

Happilymarried155 Tue 11-Dec-12 04:00:19

News is AF arrived sad tried not be too upset, but it's hard we have 4 more months before we start iui and I feel like I'm on such a time limit. I really don't want the stress of treatment etc... I know it will be worth it though, as long as it works! How are you feeling Jen?
On the upside I'm a real Christmas person I love it and its only two weeks to go!!!
Thanks for thinking of me smile x

getoffthecoffeetable Mon 10-Dec-12 21:26:02

jen congratulations! That's such fantastic news, am so pleased for you - and green with envy too I confess! Wishing you a lovely pregnancy with lots of silly cravings and absolutely no morning sickness!
No news here, starting a new cycle and am determined that hubby will have an exhausting month ;)
happily any news? X

jenrendo Fri 07-Dec-12 02:56:26

Happily any news?!

jenrendo Fri 07-Dec-12 02:55:48

mummy welcome, although not sure many of us are still on this thread. 4 months isn't a long time, although it must be difficult when you conceived so easily the first time. Good luck! You'll have to learn to have sex quietly so as not to wake DS!!

mummycooper Thu 06-Dec-12 23:27:20

hey peeps can i join??, im so simmilar to you all, i have a 17mth ds and ttc for baby number 2, no joy ye tho, my period was 5 days late there and i had begun to think maybe i was expecting, but no not this time, took me a month to get pregnant first time round, me and dh only been trying 4 months for baby 2, suppose aint long at all but seems like eternity when each month you wait in anticipation to see if yav skipped your monthly bleed. also finding it hard to get time for intimacy with m dh hes working late shifts alot and akward at night not wanting to waken ds lol, fingers crossed 2013 will bring us all our much hoped for babies tho. smile

jenrendo Wed 05-Dec-12 19:00:41

Ah Happily that is soooo depressing. It's just not fair is it? My friend and her boyfriend just announced on FB that they're pregnant and all the fuss over that on Monday made me really bloody cross and fed up. Thought I was getting my period, got a bit of brown (TMI!!) but then nothing. Spent an hour crying to my mum on the phone and sounding off, then tested the next day when nothing came of AF. What a surprise!! It does seem that everyone else finds it so easy though. I feel for you sad Keep crossing those fingers and keep shagging! Last month we only did it because we had to and it wasn't great ha ha! Just goes to show. Good luck. Let us know how you get on. I'm hoping this is the beginning of good luck for us all smile

Happilymarried155 Wed 05-Dec-12 07:12:25

Jen!!! Congratulations that's really amazing news!!! How exciting. What a perfect Christmas present!!!

I'm on cd29 today, think AF is due around 30-32 days so resisting to pee on a stick until Sunday! My co manager and good friend both announced they are pregnant with thier 2nd yesterday, both announced they were pregnant with thier first when we just started trying sad I can't believe they are both pregnant again and we haven't managed to get pregnant once yet. Majorly depressing!! How is everyone else getting on?

jenrendo Wed 05-Dec-12 01:02:18

Getoff how did your DS' nursery change go? Everything run smoothly?

jenrendo Wed 05-Dec-12 01:00:57

Hello ladies. Anyone there? First month on Letrozole and today my period was due. After 3 tests I can (I think) do a wee dance. I got a BFP grin! So, only 4 weeks and a way to go yet, but off home for Christmas and my family will be over the moon. We can't believe it after 18 months and only one tube yeeeeeee haaaaaaaaa! Hope you're all doing well xxxxx

getoffthecoffeetable Wed 21-Nov-12 17:50:55

Bless you both. I totally know what you mean, two family members now up the duff while we've been trying. It's so frustrating!
Jen do you feel like you're piling the pressure on yourself? It's difficult to know what to do though about trying not to totally stress out about it though.
Sorry I've been away for a bit, had a bit of a drama with DS's nursery. All sorted now. Am pulling him out and putting him in a new one. I think I probably went a bit over the top and mama bear about it all but I don't care. Am much happier about it!
Am currently doing the wait again. How about you ladies?

jenrendo Mon 05-Nov-12 13:59:04

I am just so annoyed with myself that I can be so selfish when I already have a lovely wee boy, and so gutted that she was so worried about telling me. Me and DH have had words tonight too which isn't helping, and he is giving me the same old lectures about putting pressure on myself and being happy with one. Boo sad

Happilymarried155 Sun 04-Nov-12 21:56:09

Jen my best friend did the same thing to me, she is also pregnant after one month of trying and I'm so unbearably sad, I really understand how you feel. When my friend told me I felt so selfish because all I could think was why not me? When is my turn? sad

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