Hiya,
Just new and trying to find my way around. Couldn't find a place to introduce myself (is there one?) so thought I'd just tell you a little here, and ask some opinions on this. Sorry if it is really long!
I am a (single) parent of 5 children- I say children, they are actually aged 12-22, 4 boys and one girl. They all live at home except the oldest.
I have a concern about my family and I fear it makes me seem like a bad mum (I sometimes feel that way, certainly!). All my children are overweight/obese so varying extents. It has seemed to have followed the same pattern with all of them; they were all probably slightly bigger than average as kids, but nothing that worried me. I suppose at the time, with the older ones at least, there was less focus on childhood obesity and such like and people just generally beleived in 'puppy fat'. I don't think many people find it easy to tell if their own child is overweight, so I suppose I never saw their weights as a problem. However, it has seemed to be always that once they reach 12/13 (around the age where it gets particularly hard to control a child's diet all the time, as they get more independent), they all put on a lot of weight in their teens.
I feel very guilty that I let this happen to all my children. I wish I'd worried more at the time, instead wrongly imagining they'd slim down as they grew older, and thought more about our habits as a family. The youngest two aren't that big, and I want to be able to make changes to prevent that happening. Within the last few years I've been trying to cook from scratch, or at least healthily, as much as I can, and there arent many complaints about this. However, my older 3 boys are often snacking- not so much from food we have at home, but things they buy to and from school etc. I try to discourage this but am met with quite a lot of resistance, also when I try and encourage exercise. The impression I get is that they are not concerned themselves at all, so see no good reason too. Their nature is such that I canbe quite blunt, but this does not seem to influence them. This is particularly true of my 16yr old son, whose weight problem is really quite significant, the most of all 5. He has expressed that he is aware he is obese, but basically doesn't care. Not that I'd like them to feel self loathing and such, but I think they are all quite blase.
Without wanting to defer responsibility, I find it hard sometimes to get much control, in relation to the older ones, as they have a lot of independence in deciding what to do and eat each day, and as I say, don't have the motivation/attitude to change. I wonder what I can do to help.
I wish I'd addressed it sooner, and I hope it is soon enough to intervene with the younger ones before it becomes a serious problem, or I forsee them going along with the habits of the older ones. I don't want to make a big issue, especially to my daughter, I know 12 yo girls can be very sensitive about this sort of thing, but I do want to address thing before they get worse.
Sorry for such a long boring post. Any help would be appreciated.
Cindy.x
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Weight problem in teens/preteens
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Cynd8314515 · 25/03/2013 19:31
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