I think having the stitches/staples out can be quite traumatic afterwards as it can hurt and usually you aren't in a hospital (had mine taken out on the sofa at home! - with a student looking on and slightly pale - but he was male!)

I totally appreciate the feeling of how horrible and experience your birth wsas, I was 30 seconds from a general with the catheter (?) in my hand and the second anaesthetist (spelling?)ready to pump the GA in. At the time it didn't bother me, what bothers me now is the general feeling from those who gave birth "naturally" that I didn't have a proper birth but then they didn't go through what I did or you did!

Anyway I would ignore the midwife - some are complete cows, mine was lovely but I had a complete witch of a HV who booked appointments and then didn't turn up and was quite derogatory to me and dd.

Do I even want to know what a pelvic fusion op is? Ouch.

I had staples after my pelvic fusion op. The scar is very neat and they didn't hurt to be removed either.

I had a drain removed as well, and wasn't offered gas and air. It was sore but only for a minute.

Really? a couple of my friends were offered it for having drains out. I was offered it and took it when I was being examined to see how favourable my cervix was and when they put the pessary in.

Bonjour, I have never heard of anyone having gas and air to have a drain taken out. Yes I have had a cs, and yes I have had a drain taken out.

I had a crash section under general for my first baby. So I know what you mean about not really being there. But, I didn't really mind. I had had quite enough of failed induction, painfull exams, sweep, waters broken, and more. So when they said they needed to knock me out because the block wasn't taking effect fast enough I just thought to myself "Oh thank God. I don't want to be here anymore anyway." I woke up to DH next to me holding DD. I didn't really mind this method of delivery (though would have preferred to skip the whole failed induction bit and just gone straight to section). But, some people are bothered. And it's okay for you to feel like you missed something. Your feeling are what they are. But, in the end, yes of course it is happy ending with a healthy mum and baby.

The skin sutures/staples are really the icing on the cake - all the hard work and skill goes on internally. How the skin closure is performed is purely down to choice, and personally, if I want a patient off the table quickly(for their benefit, not because I need a fag break lol), staples are a quick, secure, easy closure with minimal tissue reaction, thus minimalising scarring.

Your MW is stirring, and not being supportive. even if you did have a junior surgeon, he would have had a more senior collegue present, there was no need to make you doubt the care you had. Healthy mum and healthy baby - congratulations!!

MamaFi I will respond later in more dteail as I 'm in a rush but I too had staples and they hurt being removed

I found it really upsetting too x

I had a a crash encs and had the running stitch and the metal beads and a drain. Having the drain taken out was REALLY painful, though it was a bitch midwife who didn't even offer me gas and air while she did it, Having the thread out wasn't too bad.

My sis had staples for her em hysterectany. She was told it was neater and would heal better and was more appropriate for the size of the incision (vertical from naval to pubic bone). I had very neat stitchs for my emcs on a Sunday night. People were brought in to admire the surgeons work .