Hi all
I'm due to have a c'section with baby no 2 in 5 weeks (eek!). Pregnancy has all been v straightforward and while I'm nervous about c section, am happy with the decision and ok about the operation.
However, after my 2nd birth I felt traumatised by the lack of dignity. The hospital were pretty good really and I imagine it is so much worse if you have a natural birth (had a csection) but basically I had to have a bed bath. I said I didn't want one and the nurse told me 'don't be daft, won't take long' and washed me down, including my breats and armpits. I felt like a huge lump of meat and totally violated and humiliated - it makes me want to cry just thinking about it. (she was v gentle and only lasted 2 mins). I realise this is a 'problem' I have but I am scared to death of having another bed bath.
A friend has just had a csection at the same hospital and told me that the morning after the op, the midwives take you for a shower and come in the shower room to help you and make sure you don't faint. This horrifys me!!
Help!I know I am being totally stupid and it's no big deal to the nurses or anyone else etc etc but it really is to me.
Can I tell them I don't want them to come in with me for a shower? or ask if they can wait till my husband arrives later in morning and he can come in with me? Can I refuse a bed bath?
I feel pathetic that this is my main concern when I'm having a major op and a beautiful baby (hopefully!) but am sure there must be people out there who have similar 'trivial' concerns.
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xenabelly · 16/12/2006 22:52
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