Has anyone else had forceps twice?

[TheCharWoman]

After a long and traumatic labour three years ago, I ended up in theatre with forceps and a very bad 3rd degree tear.

As a result I was very nervous throughout my 2nd pregnancy and at my checking in appt I asked my midwife if a c-sec would be a better option for me.

I saw a consultant (for about 10 minutes) at 20 weeks, who told me that loads of women have forceps first time round but that as my recovery had been fine (if slow) I should be fine having a normal birth this time around. He even told me I could have a home birth if I liked.

In fact the labour was almost identical to my 1st and I ended up having my 10lb baby pulled out with forceps, terrible tear etc, nearly 2 weeks late.

Midwives I have seen since have expressed surprise that I wasn't offered a c-sec given that it looks like I have a tilted pelvis and would never be able to give birth naturally. The HV was also surprised that I was allowed to go so overdue given the size of the baby (and the first birth).

So has anyone else had forceps twice?
Was I just unlucky or should the consultant have steered me differently?

Grateful to hear any experiences...

[PenguinsHatchedAnEgg]

I fit the standard pattern he described of only first time. Poor you.

[WLmum]

You poor poor thing! I had similar first as you, was given the choice with my second but was steered towards c sec by consultant. He did tell me however that there was only a 3% chance I'd have the first labour I did and I'm sure he said something like 3% of 3% that it would happen again but I didn't want to take the chance. How hideous for you.

[weatherall]

I've never heard of forceps twice.

I hope you've recovered ok.

[arewethereyetmum78]

I've had forceps for all 3 of my dcs. With my youngest they were prepping me for section but only 1 theatre was available that day and someone was in it already. Dd needed out quick so forceps won. Recovery was fine that time though. First time was pretty bad and I took months to heal properly

[TheCharWoman]

Thank you very much for your experiences. Sounds like I was pretty unusual/unlucky then, but I still can't help but think that a consultant or midwife should have suggested intervention sooner given background and size.

Arewethereyetmum78 - 3 times, ouch you poor thing.