I gave birth five months ago and still feel awful about it. We'd planned a water birth at home and I know these things can't be planned, but I was horribly pressured into an induction that ended in a spinal and forceps.
I'd not just spent nine months thinking about giving birth...I'd wanted a baby for a very long time and often thought about the moment I'd give birth. I used hypnobirthing techniques for 12 hours with contractions 2 mins apart but he turned and I was in agony in my back. I had an epidural but they said it had worn off by the time I was 10cm. I was on my back, feet in stirrups, feeling no sensation to push but in agony in my back, being shouted at to push. Physically it was awful but more so, mentally it was so much worse.
I know it's not pleasant but I feel like I missed out on this important part. The ring of fire, crowning, pushing him out. I just wanted to experience it so I'd know what it was like so I wouldn't be afraid. I don't feel like I've given birth - please those of you who also had forceps or a CS - I don't mean to invalidate it. I think it's just grief. I feel so sad about it that when my DH told me I poo'd myself during the awful no sensation shouting pushing stage, I cried because I must have got him so far right? Who cries with relief at pooing themselves??
I don't feel like I did anything. He came out with black eyes and they cut his cord and whisked him away even though he was fine. I feel so sad about it all and even if the next birth/labour is a water birth at home and everything is as I'd hoped, it'll never make it right because it happened with DS.
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Can't shake this sad feeling five months on
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Orenishii · 06/04/2013 10:37
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