Sorry if this has already been posted about. I'm new to this forum and not entirely sure how it works.
My question is about 3rd degree tears and what your experiences have been.
I had a 3rd degree tear 6 months ago when I had my first baby. The midwife told me that she would tell me when to stop pushing but she didn't. I ended up pushing him out really quickly and got a third degree tear.
Since the birth, I have had pain and bleeding whenever I have a bowel movement. I went to see my GP and was referred to a surgeon. They said that everything seems healed but I'm still in pain. (I was not offered any physio.) Going to see the surgeon made me feel even worse because she told me that if I ever get pregnant again, there is no guarantee I could get a c-section. She said I would be more likely to tear giving birth a second time because of the first tear. She also said that I could end up with problems such as bowel incontinence and that there was no guarantee that it could ever be fixed. I always wanted a big family but now I feel scared about having another baby.
Also I have tried having sex three times since giving birth and haven't managed it. I'm really scared about tearing through the muscle again. My husband fluctuates between being sympathetic and accusing me of being selfish. I know it has been 6 months and I need to get back on the horse again but I'm really, really worried about it. Any time I even think about sex, I think about the tear.
I looked 'down there' properly for the first time the other day and everything looks different. I have a big line of scar tissue poking out and it looks terrible.
I feel like everything has changed since I had my baby and I feel really low all the time. If you've had a 3rd degree tear, have you gone on to tear again during subsequent births? Does the scar tissue go away? Do you have any tips about having sex again?
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Victoria54321 · 01/03/2013 22:52
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