Excluded by friends in year 7

[Viewofthehills]

After changing schools several times due to us moving area,my shy daughter had finally made good friends that she moved up to high school with. Although these girls frequently argue with each other she has stayed friends with all of them and the year has mostly gone swimmingly. three weeks ago she sudenly started to be left out of everything outside school.Yesterday they all went to the fair without her,although she had arranged to go with one of them who basically stood her up. How do I best help her? My feeling is she needs some new friends..

[sdr]

You could be writing about my DD now in Y8. Girls at that age can get quite nasty and exclude others for the most stupid petty reasons. Can you organise a outing and get her to invite one friend? We've just had to ride through the ups and downs. Activities outside school have helped our DD as we find the girls less judgemental, perhaps because they don't see each other as much. It is hard being mum because you can't intervene as easily as at primary school. With the summer hols coming up are there any courses going on she's interested in so she is mixing with other girls in case it continues?

[Viewofthehills]

Thank you for your reply. You're spot on. I find it very hard not being able to "fix it" for her. Will do as you suggest;she loves being busy anyway. Hope your daughter is going on ok now.

[deaddei]

Have had this too.
Can she go to some clubs at school to meet new people with similar interests?