restorative justice for dealing with bullying - any experiences of this?

[reallylostitnow]

I would be just so grateful for your view on this:

has anyone had experience of going through this with their child, either from a 'wrongdoer' or bully's perspective, or from a victim's perspective?

does it work?

please share your experiences. I am not entirely sure it is going to be worth putting my child through it - some anti bullying charities seem to think it is a waste of time, whereas others seem to think it very effective.

please please help me on this!

thanks in advance

[DeirdreB]

I've been watching this, sorry you have not received any replies. I'm not sure I agree with some of the popular bullying policies which force the "victim" and "bully" to discuss the issues face to face. I think this could be humiliating for the victim. I'm not sure what form restorative justice takes but this also sounds somewhat humiliating too. Shame there are no other opinions / thoughts.

[munstersmum]

This is a really tricky issue. I feel it is more about the bully than the victim.

Bullies are often liars & manipulative even at a young age.

Is your child old/mature enough to go through this? What if it makes not a jot of difference?

The victim has to be able to look the bully in the eye, otherwise it's just people talking around them.

You can tell I lean one way. My experience comes less from being a parent and more from the workplace.