dd been bullied for about a month, i have noticed real decline in her happiness level and she has gone very quiet and reluctant re school, where previously she had been happy, popular, chatty, confident etc. I knew something was wrong. It took a huge amount of persuasion to tell me - kids passing notes about her in class, reading them, looking up at her, laughing, passing them on. kids not including her in games and calling her horrible names like 'bitchface', also slight racial undertones - most of the kids in school are from one background, we are not, so kids were going up to her speaking in a kind of gibberish language and saying she sould understand as we are XXXXish. Sorry I am being really vague but I don't want to be identified and I really really need to vent! so i persuaded her at last to tell. we settled on teacher she most trusts in school,spoke to them, they said they'd take it seriously, would act on it, no punishment for bullies this time, give them a warning and a chance to stop, and then if that didn't work, sanctions would follow. teacher was true to his word, dealt with it that same day, and DD noticed a change immediately. One of the bullies apologised, another asked if she was ok. A good start I felt and so did DD. We are now working on forgetting all about it, being positive about school etc.
Imagine my surprise when today the school's weekly newsletter naming those who have acheived excellence -either academic, effort or behaviour - for DD's class named one of the bullies! And not even for academics or effort - FOR BEHAVIOUR!!!!!! I am so livid.
SPoke to teacher this morning who said 'O I'm not sure she was really the ringleader'!!!!!!! As if to say 'o but she was only bullying your daughter a little bit, so I thought I should reward her for that'
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