my poor poor 3 year old little boy :o(

[emy72]

I hope someone can help me here as I am going out of my mind.
My son is only 3 and a half and started at preschool nursery in October. He initially loved it, until recently he was crying his eyes out saying he didn't want to go. We asked him if there were any problems at school but he didn't say so and we just assumed he was getting tired before half term but I did suspect there was a problem. I then saw other parents lining up to talk to the teacher as apparently there is a child who has been troublesome.
My child then talked to my mum this half term as he is staying with her, and told her that there is this boy who is: "chasing him all the time, pushing him, biting him on the shoulder, pinching his skin and twisting it round until it really hurts, bending his fingers backwards etc.." I am so distressed that my child has been suffering this torment and has not been able to tell us, yet nobody ie the school we entrusted to take care of him hasn't told us or been aware of any of it, despite so many parents complaining? I want to withdraw my child temporarily until I have calmed down and fully assessed the scale of the problem - but how would you go about it in an effective way? Any advice very welcome, sorry it was all a bit garbled but I am so shocked that my little boy has had to suffer all this in silence ((((((((((((

[sophieandbelly]

this is awful, i bet ur heart broken to hear this, i cant help other than to say talk to teachers etc and if this child is not delt with mayb look for another pre school and talk to the other parents, how can the teachers not b sorting this out discusting

[smallorange]

You need to speak yo the head teacher at the pre school. Say your DS is scared to come to nursery.

My DD was scared of one boy who had behavioural problems. She didn't like the games he was playing in the playground. I spoke to them and they took it very seriously, reassuring her, talking to the others about emotions, banning certain games. She was much happier after a few days.

It's important you bring this up and emphasise the effect it's having on your son - this is his first experience of formal education and it's important it's a positive one.

[QuestionsAnswered]

Make an appointment to speak to the manager/person in charge and ask what has happened. If your Ds has had all these things happen to him, they must have some awareness of what has happened and know that this other child needs his behaviour managing carefuly, with adequate supervision to minimise aggressive behaviour towards others.

You should have been made aware of any incidents towards your DS. I feel for you, it must be heartbreaking to know your DS has put up with this without any support.

[emy72]

Thanks so much,
I will go first thing Monday morning and speak to the person in charge of the nursery in the first instance. I still won't send my DS until I am happy/have some degree of reassurance that it won't happen again. I will like we've been sending him to the lion's den every morning, no wonder he got so distressed he didn't want to get dressed/leave the house (((

[DorcusLane]

thats awful, I would remove him from the school, ...... a little boy told my daughter that he was going to cut her throat with a knife, this was when she was three, I moved her out of the school, I did not want my daughter growing up with this little monster, she is now in a lovely little school, which are VERY strict with bullies.

[BoysAreLikeDogs]

bear in mind that the staff will not be able to identify the child to you; even though you 'know' which child it may be

good luck

it could be that the staff are wanting parents to complain, to enable them to source help (SENCO for eg) or activate a plan for the child, so you could well be helping the other child