I really don't know what to do.DD1 is in Yr4.there are only 4 other girls in her yr group and a further 4 in her class (in yr 5 & 6)
Three of the other girls in DD s year are extremely pushy and selfish and mean to DD who is not aggressive.
DD says she feels invisible.She says the other girls ignore her all the time and won't let her play.They chorus in unison 'we aren't playing anything ' when they obviously are , or just run away from her.
One girl in particular steems to be the ringleader and I have noticed if anyone makes friendly overtures to DD this girl intercedes.
this has really been going on since reception.We have had children in her year back to play but they have been so utterly awful, it hasn't really been enjoyable for anyone.
DD makes friends readily at Brownies ,non-school clubs and on holiday.Although we have noticed she is getting less confident at this.I asked her to try and make friends with the 'nice' girl.She siad that her hair looked lovely after it had been cut and the girl just said 'whatever' and turned away.
We have spoken to the school.The first time we asked what DD is doing to make the other girls not like her.The answer came back very resoundingly that it isn't DD it is the other girls who are so pushy !The Brownie leader , told me she had never had such a group of little madams in the 30 years she had been running brownies.
Recently we have approached the HT who made all the right noises but did nothing.
DD speaks very very quietly at school and now anywhere out of the house.
DD is now becoming a lot more upset by the situation.We went into school again last week and the HT suggested that he thought that the 2 boys in her yr group were being bullied too.(DD actually is friendly with these boys but they have very different interests)HT said he would move the classroom round so DD could be sitting with the older girls and some nice boys.But this hasn't happened.In fact yesterday the teacher let 2 of the nasty girls pick teams for games and DD was picked last.So they are obviously taking no notice of our complaint at all
I can't see anything ever changing.The 'ringleader' is the chair of governors only child and the only non-white child in the school.When we went to
I am so worried about what it is doing to my little girls self esteem and confidence.I really want to move her but I am worried about going from the frying pan into the fire as most of the schools round here are of a similar size.the nearest bigger school is about 8 miles away and would mean we have to move DD2 who is very happy and popular where she is.One of us would have to give up work to HE and we really couldn't afford this .
This type of emotional bullying is so difficult to prove but I feel probably the most damaging.
I wonder whether I should write a letter to the chair of governors to outline my complaint and make her realise how her little princess has affected my DD
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spiderpig8 · 07/02/2010 12:08
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