A boy bit my DD on the arse today

[MissingLink]

It was a snowy lunch time at at primary school, ie the children have to stay in the classroom. There was a dinner lady/lunchtime supervisor in the class for a while, but then she left and the children (Y1 and Y2) were left unsupervised. My DD tells me that a boy bit her on the bum whilst they were left with no adult.
Obviously, you have to ask questions, because how do you see someone biting your arse?
She tells me that she was bent over whilst playing a game, and felt a pinching pain on her bum. She jumped up and yelled, and her friend told her that boy J had bitten her bottom. She didn't tell an adult as there was no adult there to tell.
She told me when we came home, but by then it was too late to ring the school.
I will have to tackle it tomorrow - I am not sure whether I am more cross about the biting incident or the fact that young children were left alone, allowing it to happen?
PS - DS, who goes to the same school, knew the name of the biter - DS says this child is a nightmare and is always in trouble for "physical" stuff.

[ChilloSTOPFOLLOWINGMEhippi]

I would want to make a bit of a fuss over this, to be honest. Firstly, the children should not have been left unsupervised. Secondly, the biter needs to be dealt with.
Let me know what the school says when you speak to them.

[MitchyInge]

good luck tomorrow - doesn't seem right, leaving such young children unsupervised for any length of time

[Openbook]

You do need to follow this up.The dinner lady might be shared across 2 classes - the school will be able to tell you the allowable adult/child ratio but i think it is high for lunchtime. Nonetheless the child needs to be dealt with and if it's part of a pattern of bad behaviour a complaint from you will help build a picture for the school that will support them dealing with him (speaking to parents, getting additional support etc.) There might be a case for making sure this particular child has closer lunchtime supervision than normal. Can you be calm and factual - it will be better if you can. Also - are you sure your dd didn't do anything? It can be a nasty shock to find there is another side to the issue you didn't know about. Better to do a bit of digging yourself first. Why didn't dd tell the dinner lady when she came back in? Why didn't she tell the teacher in the afternoon?Those are the questions the teacher will ask.

[MissingLink]

Thank you everyone, I will be following it up. Openbook - your post makes many valid points. It is probably good that I was not able to speak to the school this afternoon - calm and factual will be easier to achieve tomorrow.
My DD didn't tell the dinner lady because she didn't come back into the class . I think that she would have told the dinner lady if she had been there. My DD is very shy and quiet and finds it hard to raise issues with teachers/TAs. Her teachers have always said this at Parents' Evenings.
Of course, when there are incidents at school, there could be unknown dynamics of which parents are ignorant, and children do not always tell the whole truth. However, I do believe that this happened and that DD did nothing to provoke it.

[Openbook]

Glad you weren't offended. Hope it has gone alright today.

[MissingLink]

Chillo - you asked for an update on the biting incident. It all went quite well with the school. Taking the actual biting first, the children were playing various games in their friendship groups. The biter was playing a game where they were pretending to be dogs. He decided to be a fierce dog and got rather carried away and bit DD on the bum. He admitted it straight away when the teacher tackled him. He has been told that this is unacceptable, his parent has been spoken to, he has to write a letter of apology to DD and he was kept in school when the rest of the class went to their Forest School session today.
Second issue is the lack of adult supervision. The teacher was cross and embarrassed that the dinner lady hadn't been there. He said that she should have been there all lunchtime and that the head has dealt with this - it will not happen again (sounds as though she went off for a skive).
The teacher agreed that this incident would probably not have happened if the class had been supervised at the time - an adult would have spotted the game getting out of hand and dealt with it.
Bottom line is - the school have apologised and accept that they were at fault and that lack of supervision resulted in an incident that need never have happened.
I am satisfied with the outcome and I thank you all for your advice re handling this.

[ChilloSTOPFOLLOWINGMEhippi]

At least he wasn't doing it just out of the blue, but as part of a game, I guess.
It's a good outcome. I am glad you spoke to the school.

[DillieTantie]

Chillo - the knowledge that it was part of a silly game is way better than my wild thoughts a couple of days ago.................
tbh, I almost laughed. Maybe it was just relief, but imagining the scenario, it sounded quite amusing, if your DD getting bitten on the bum can be amusing?

[ChilloSTOPFOLLOWINGMEhippi]

I know what you mean. It is a relief.