Bullying At School

[AngelDelight78]

Hi There,
I am new and this is my first post so I hope I have posted in the correct place.
I am really stressed and really don't know what to do and who to turn to.
My son is 7 and a half and has been bullied on and off since last year at his school. I contacted the school and had a meeting with them as I explained that If it carried on, I would pull my son out of the school. It was dealth with then but then the grandmother of the child who was bullying my son, decided to verbally attack me in the street, screaming abuse at me as she blamed me and my son for her grandsons behaviour. The thing is my son was not the only one being bullied. This woman continued to intimidate me and although I informed the school, she is still allowed to make me feel scared.
Although my son and this boy are no longer in the same class now, my son is the type of person who is forgiving and likes to play with everyone. My son is a bit small for his age too but as boys do, they are allowed to play rough which I do not totally agree with.
Anyway 2 days ago, my son was pushed to the floor by the same boy and then he put his hands round my sons neck. My son told me how stressed he was and how he hates the school. Again I had a meeting with the school mentor, i told her that if this childs grandparent is informed, she will start on me again, she is known to be violent and abusive. So basically this child did get told off for what he did but because my son told the dinner lady who was the only one around on duty but somehow missed what happened, this incident will not be writen on report! So all in all this child just got a telling off for strangling my son. I do not really want to pull him out the school as i know this will unsettle him but if it carries on, i will have no choice as i do not send my son to school to be abused but i send him school to learn and develop. I am not happy with the way the school is dealing with this,as they are also scared of this grandmother as she has also verbally abused teachers with racial and homophobic remarks.
Im sorry for the long post, i know its all a bit mumble jumble-sorry :-(

[mutualfriend]

Bumping for you Angel. Welcome to MN

[AngelDelight78]

Thank you mutualfriend for welcoming me

[hester]

I don't have any relevant experience, but I don't see that the school can do much about the grandmother. You really should tell the police - she sounds like a nasty piece of work and you need to take steps to protect yourself.

As for your son, I'm sure someone will be along to give you really useful advice soon. All I can say is that I'm very sorry for you and him - it does sound terribly stressful. Poor little boy

[Goblinchild]

If the grandmother is abusive, the school can ban her from the premises. One parent I know had to have their child escorted to the local car park by the head and another teacher and handed over there.
Being scared or intimidated by an adult doesn't remove the teachers' professional duty of care to your son. If they can't or won't deal appropriately, you will have to complain higher up the ladder.

[AngelDelight78]

Thank you everyone for your kind messages.

I had a meeting with the head teacher who was very helpful and explained that the grandmother will be observed when she is in the playground for a while and that she will be having a meeting with her too. She told me to keep a diary of events. I explained I would get the police involved should she carry on being abusive, Im not sure she was keen on me getting the police involved as this would mean he school being involved in a way.

As for the bullying, my son was told that he should the child hurt my son in any way, then he would need to report the mentor and lunchtime supervisor. But my son has told me he is to scared to tell them and I am constantly encouring my son that he needs to report it as then the school will not know about it. I have now spoken to his class teacher too, so should there be an incident, my son would need to report to her.

I have told my son not to be scared and hopefully in time, his fear will vanish. Im dreading it when the school contact the grandmother. The head teacher did say that If she continued, she would ban the grandmother from the school.

Thanks again for your messages, will update when I know more. Hope you all have a lovely weekend x