Because from what I hear, this seems to be the case.
Ds is 10, in year 5. He has some physical differences to other children (webbed skin between his toes, scars where webbed skin was surgically dealt with as a baby), plus he has the misfortune to have a mum who is disabled in a very obvious physical way. He is brighter than the majority of kids in his class.
Now there have been issues for some time about his temper at school, and we (school and home) have spent a lot of time working with him to manage this. He has had an IEP in place for his behaviour issues since year 2.
However, many of his temper episodes are sparked by other children calling him names/calling me names to him/teasing him regarding his feet etc etc etc.
This term he is REALLY trying to manage his temper, and not get into trouble. We do the whole "sticks and stones" bit with him, he has taken it on board, and seriously is trying.
There have been 2 episodes already this term however, where he's been given red cards. On the first, his teacher did ring me to explain that she knows he was provoked by 3 children, and they were given warnings (he got the red card cos he actually hit one of them, whereas they 'just' taunted him). In the second, a known bully hit him first, he hit back, and got a red card, I don't know what happened about the other lad.
We have a meeting scheduled to review his IEP, and DH is getting himself ready to broach, in a very firm way, the issue of the constant taunting and name calling that ds endures. Basically his take is that they can't expect DS to manage his temper if the pressure which sets it up is always there. He does seem to get some sort of verbal abuse every day, which he just get's told to ignore if he reports it. But our view is that a chap can only endure soooo much, and school don't seem to be able to put a lid on the taunting.
We are worried that this whole thing will get much worse when he moves on to a huge secondary school, and are currently looking (with some desperation), at how we could afford private school (which is what my father did to solve the problem for me).
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