Last summer, the 13 yr old ds of a friend of mine threstened my ds (10) with a pellet gun. This understandably upset ds who came straight home and told me. I spoke to my friend who dealt with the incident by confiscating the gun. (why he had a gun while out playing unsupervised is beyond me but that's another story.......) My ds was so upset by the whole thing that he wouldn't go out and play on the fields on his own with his friends for the rest of the summer - he'd play around the garden or go out when we did.
Anyway - this summer ds decided that he would start going out to play again. I was glad and I thought it had all blown over. All has been fine until this last week when the older boy has started 'picking on' ds for 'grassing him up' last year. It started with snide comments but has escalated to him pushing ds off his bike.
When ds came home last night he told me that this boy had pushed him over a hedge. I immediately went out to the street, found the boy, and (very reasonably - how I held my temper I don't know) asked him to leave my ds alone. I told him that I wasn't going to tell his mum and dad tonight, but if anything else happens, I would. I also mentioned that big kids picking on little kids is really quite sad....
Anyway, my dh now says that by speaking to the boy I might have made things worse for ds? Do you think I have?? I really hope not I can't stand by and let another child injure my child (he's covered in scratches from the hedge) and get away with it can I? Ds has had the guts to tell me about it so surely I would be letting him down big time if I didn't help him deal with it?? Should I be helping him deal with it himself - if so, how?
I feel so useless - ds is my eldest and it's the first time I've come across anything like this and quite frankly I don't know what to do for the best - Any ideas??
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gingertoo · 02/06/2009 09:35
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