Am I making a mountain out of a molehill

[Lostinparenthood]

I had to go and speak with my ds teacher recently as he has been having problems with a couple of boys in the year above him. Two things stuck out for me that were unacceptable, but unfortunately I was too shocked at the time to pick up on. First she was aware that these particular boys pick on the younger boys. Second I mentioned a situation when I had had to tell a different group of boys 'her boys' (as she calls them) to leave a younger lad alone. Well her response was so and so gives as good as he gets!!. I have now been told that I misconstrued the situation and 'her boys' were protecting this boy from some older boys. I explained that that wasn't what happened, I was there and she was unaware of the situation until I brought it to her attention, but she has spoken 'her boys' and they don't lie to her, so I am wrong about what I saw and heard

I went again last week to see the headmaster as my ds came home and informed us that the same boys he has been having trouble with had pulled his trousers down at school. The school failed to notify us of the situation as they had 'dealt' with it.

Basically the children involved were kept in for the rest of play and spoken with by a teacher. If we weren't informed then surely the parents of the children involved weren't either, so as far as the children are concerned they missed five minutes of play for humiliating a child. Not much of a punishment? I am very unhappy with the way this has been dealt with.

The headmaster was unaware that I had been in previously about these boys. Lack of communication between him and his staff? My ds is about the fifth child this year who was been picked on by these boys, and nothing seems to be done about they behaviour. Am I making a mountain out of a molehill or is this unacceptable. My ds has struggled to fit in this school and this year finally has found his feet and has been happy, what do I do next?

[Niftyblue]

Keep going in until its sorted
the headmistress should have been made aware that you had been in over bulling