When I was in my early teens I went on a school trip abroad. I was a bit apprehensive as I was a shy and home-loving girl, but thought I would be OK as my (so-called) friends were also going. I was sharing a room with them (there were 3 of us in the room). The room had a double bed and a single.
The first thing that upset me was that neither of them wanted to share the double with me. I can understand teenage silliness over bed-sharing but felt really hurt at the nose wrinkling, as if I was smelly / dirty or something (which I was not).
The first night there I was very ill with food poisoning. I don't think I have felt as ill before or since (even with morning sickness). I crawled out of bed to be sick repeatedly and ended up sleeping on the bathroom floor just so I was near the loo. I woke the other two, unavoidably, and heard 'yuks' and other sounds of disgust and annoyance at being woken coming from the bedroom as well as sniggers.
I was so ill I didn't care but I was feeling homesick and sad (just wanted my mum) The following morning I felt well enough to return to my bed and fell asleep. When I woke up, one of them had daubed red paint or make-up all over 'my half' of the sheets as if to make it look that I had a period and had bled all over the sheets. Cue more uncontrollable laughter and then eventually peace as they went out for breakfast and I stayed in bed.
Why would anyone do that?
I have never told anyone about this before, but it had a deep and lasting impression on me and I don't recall the teachers doing anything (I think I was too ashamed and ill/ fed up to say anything anyway). I think when I finlly got up, the sheets were changed. I spent the rest of the torture 'holiday' (haha what a fun time I had ) in the bed with the other girl putting pillows down the middle of the bed to 'protect' herself from me.I think this has affected how I trust and relate to people as an adult.Â
This is not a troll. I am too ashamed to post it under my regular name. I don't know what I should have done, or if indeed there is anything I still should do - seek counselling perhaps? It has been cathartic to write it down.
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This still upsets me. I am a grown woman, AIBU, should I just get over it?
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anonymity · 16/01/2009 15:51
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