DD has just had her sixth birthday.
She's a fairly quiet and shy little girl, but this year has come out of her shell quite a bit. Her school report said she was popular and had lots of friends. She has lots of invites to play with children in her class.
The problem is that there are a couple of girls in her class who are very attached to her, they want to play with her and sit with her. At first this was a relief as she was worried about being on her own at playtime or in the dinner hall. But if she wants to sit or play with anyone else they can be quite nasty, they say they hate her, they push her over, and lately it's got more serious and a couple of weeks ago she came home with a black eye where one of them opened a drawer on her face on purpose. She's had bruised shins from being kicked, a scrape down her face from being pushed over.
I spoke to the teacher who told her that she must come and tell someone if they're hurting her, and said both girls are quite insecure and desperate themselves not to be left out.
Every single day dd comes home with a story of how they've fought or threatened. I know it's not straightforward bullying as when I drop her off these girls rush over and cuddle her, write her notes saying she's their best friend, invite her to play - but it's so controlling that dd is becoming increasingly frustrated and unhappy.
I'm not sure how to manage it and what else to do. I try to encourage her to say no, walk away, play with who she wants, tell the teacher if she's being hurt, I'm not sure what to do to help her.
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Boco · 02/07/2008 10:56
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