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Don't know how to help DS (12)

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SallyMcgally · 20/06/2014 02:48

DS is funny, sensitive and kind. He's also dyspraxic, anxious and shy. He's always been prone to bullying and in the past has been v hurt when former friends have turned on him for no apparent reason. But he always had one v stalwart friend, and has spent most of year 8 hanging out with him and 4 or 5 others. He went on a school French exchange which most of them didn't go on. During this time the group reformed, and though they say hello to DS there's v little more contact. He had a FB chat with his former best friend last night which seemed friendly enough, but then the boy took no notice of him at a social event in the evening. DS would never be unkind , not least because he would be so nervous, so I don't think it's that he said or did anything mean.It may be that his friend wants to hang out with other kids, which is fair enough, but why stop speaking beyond civilities? Am thinking of moving DS as he's now fair game for a lot of other bullying. School have tried to act but it's pretty insidious. He's getting counselling and that helps. But he's so naturally sociable, and nobody really hangs out with him now.

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PetaPipa · 20/06/2014 03:15

I'm not sure I have any good advice, but I just wanted to let you know that this happened to my brother (also because he was a lovely boy, sociable and cared what people thought), but stopped when he moved to a new school and he is now a confident teenager with plenty of friends. My own method of avoiding being bullied was just to be (or pretend to be) supremely indifferent to what others said or thought about me. But this is hard to manage if it's not in your nature I know.

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SallyMcgally · 20/06/2014 03:43

Thanks Peta

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Moid1 · 03/10/2014 16:57

We are about to move our son in year 9, young in his year, quite short. Very prone to bullying but has grown up a lot and we are positive that a new start will give him the boost he needs. Obviously now is a good time to move him before they get stuck into GCSE's.

Good luck with your choice.

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