Right, DS is DC2, in reception. He is a lovely little chap who is happy and cheerful, loves school, loves reading, chatters away tous and has a lovely inquisitive mind. He uses his manners, plays nicely etc..
When he joined school, his nursery was not the main feeder one, as we didn't like the main feeder one (not linked to the school, just populardue to location) buthoped he would make friends anyway when he joined school.
Here we are, 4 weeks from the end of school year, and DS doesn't seem to have his 'own' friend. I've noticed on various activities and school trips when the teacher says to pick your partner to walk with on a trip, DS has been jumping up and dashing round to pick someone and everyone has already found their friend, and DS is always a last one who the teacher usually has to put with a staff helper or another child who hasn't found someone.
I try not to make a bog deal out of it and ask if he has had a good day, and not press on the issue of who he played with.
In play session he might play for a whole with some one, but he doesn't have a best friend. On a morning if we arrive in the playground before the bell goes, if he goes tp join in playing with someone they don't play or ignore him.
We don't live in the same direction as any of the other kids in his year, so we can't walk home with anyoe or offer to take anyone home.
If I ask if he wants to have someone for tea, he says oh but they are so and sos friend,
A lot of children either wnet to the local playgroup or live close to each other. It's a high number of boys, but there are a large group that are quite full on and we've had a few incidents of dh being hit, which we have always gone in and raised with staff
He still happily trots off into class, but I'm consious that over the holidays he won't havea school friend to arrange playdates with, and he isn't fitting in as well with the cliquesthat haveformed.
He happily plays with the girls which I'm fine with, but I'm also thinking that as they get older, girls won't want a boy hanging round with them.
iIt's really upsetting meand it is always onmy mind. If i speak tohis teacher she tellsme he doesplay with otherpupils (i haveseen him playing, I know he'snot isolated!0 but there is no real bond of friendship being formed.
I'm really stuck here and hope someonehas any hints for me?
(I've tried him with a couple of out of school clubs but he now does athletics which just by chance is mailnly girls at the moment, and he did karate but sais he wasn';t bothered by it and just wanst tobe playing! which is fair enoughas he is only 5!)
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JoyceDivision · 19/06/2014 19:23
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