Dearest MN
I've read so many of these posts and great responses. Just wanted some particular advice for myself and 6yr DS in Year One.
A well established group of other boys in same class (and a few others) have started to pick on my DS, the usual exclusion, name calling but also now getting quite violent - neck grabbing, pushing over, kicking etc but with some kind of nasty comments like 'why can't you get up?' when they keep pushing him over and 'if you don't learn to do xx by Friday we'll get you' - asking him to do dangerous things.
I've seen it myself at parties so I dread to think what is happening in the playground when I can't call on them to stop.
The parents are all very well to do, polite and obvs think their little lads are wonderful.
The school is considered fantastic and have always said they would deal with the problems - I've been in a couple of times and things have stopped but it's bad again now.
This group are only going to follow DS from this school to junior (it's right next door) and I don't want to consign him to years of this. He's coping well, its quite stoical about it and knows it's not his fault BUT has now started crying in his sleep, getting into bed with me and saying he has a lot of 'worries'.
He's on the school talented & gifted register, has lessons in the year above and is always answering questions and I know can be a bit annoying because he always volunteers. I assume he probably sticks out quite a bit with the gang because he doesn't follow a leader, is quite adult and independent and doesn't play football (although he loves the parties, outdoor play and stuff)
So.... am thinking of moving him to a small, local private school where he won't get get lost in a big crowd of lads who don't like him and where being geeky might be a bit more normal? I've no idea. I don't want him to stop trying his hardest in class (as he does right now) when he realises it's not cool and probably why he's getting this nasty attention.
And we could just about afford it if we really try but it would have a big financial impact so don't want to make the wrong decision.
Has anyone else done this?
Would a move between Year One and Two be disastrous - better the devil (or young devils) you know. Or should I wait for the move up to Junior School? r would that make no difference because he'll still be the New Boy whenever? And then will I have made it worse and he'll have absolutely no one he knows at all? And I'll have lost his place in the state junior (which again is considered great for the area).
As you can read am going round a bit on the roundabout and completely at a loss at what to do - he's my first and only and I am bloody sleepless with worry and inability to make a decision.
Sorry for such a LOOOOOONG post, but would really appreciate any advice. Thanks so much! X
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6yr old DS - would a school change make it worse? Sleepless nights! :(
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GalaBrand · 18/06/2014 14:21
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