Please help - are these signs of something

[BigBird69]

My son started a new school last September. It's all boys. He's very young compared to others. It is also a learning support school. It is meant to deal with children who have special educational needs such as ASD, ADHD, (my son is severely dyslexic) It's been a huge change. It's been very "rufty rufty" physical boys stuff, swearing etc (may I just add DS is 8) his behaviour has deteriorated. He's gone from being placid, compliant to very aggressive and rude. I then discovered that one boy is a problem. This boy also has a sidekick who is referred to as his "b I t c h" on Friday my son missed the whole afternoons lessons as he was hiding after a fight at lunch break. He was eventually found in bushes at the end of the school day. The school failed to tell me. It turned out they hadn't noticed! I found out as he had bruises and he eventually said. I have been in(again, I've emailed, written, phoned and been in various times for other concerns about general behaviour/discipline) school say they are "taking it seriously" and I've registered a complaint . however , more worrying , my sons behaviour has completely changed. He is quiet and angry looking. He refuses to talk to me and if I even touch him he goes mad. Screams "don't touch me" by this I mean stroking his arm or trying to hold his hand. He used to be a cuddly child only a matter of weeks ago. What is this telling me? I don't know what to do or who to turn to? I am scarred something has happened but I don't know if I am over reacting?

[tinks01]

Hi I have an 11 year old brother with adhd and ada fas amongst other things firstly I would talk openly to your son I know its hard I work with children with special needs and have two of my own
Secondly I would phone OFSTED IMEDIATLY
Can I also state its very unusual for your son to be placed with children who dpnt seem to have similar needs you definatley need to speak to the school again about recent changes in behaviour and I would also be concerned

[BigBird69]

Thank you for your reply. I have been in to meet the head and i am going in again today. Thank you for confirming my own thoughts. It's good to know I'm not over reacting x

[tinks01]

Good luck hun I really hope all goes well let us know x

[LairyPoppins]

I would remove him from the school.

I wouldn't want my son to be in that situation at all.

[BigBird69]

Have had two more meetings with school since my post and at the moment they seem to be treating my concerns seriously. Parents of other boy been called in and also the staff who shod have been on duty have had to submit reports etc. school has admitted it has failed.
Will remain to be seen how long it lasts. I have been in a number of times before.
So far, my son is a lot better now he feels more confident school helping. He has been on for a chat with head every day this week to report on his day (I know that won't last)
I would love to move him. But it is an SEN school and the local authorities don't exactly have a lot on offer so on paper it is the only place. This it what makes it worse. I feel trapped as a parent. thanks for your posts x

[tinks01]

Totally understand your right there isnt enough support for children with special needs your doing all you can keep smiling x