Please help, advice needed. My son is a happy child generally but has had ongoing issues at school. In the main this is due to the social group of boys that are in his year group. We have had problems since he started school with one child in particular who is angry violent and nasty. I have made the school aware of any problems as they have happened, but feel even though they have been addressed, the situation is ongoing.
The head teacher at the school left last year as she was new and claimed she was being treated badly by the staff, this is part of the problem as they now have a new head, have spoken to the assistant acting head, the teachers and now the new head, there isn't one person who is in charge of the situation.
Last week DS was hurt quite badly at lunchtime play, there is a woodland area with an old tractor tyre, this is where most of the problems arise, it is a small school with too many kids, so sometimes he has lunch outside - even in the winter. This has lead to other issues ie his lunch being taken etc.
Last week I went in to see the new head who seemed to be unaware of any of these issues. I explained that he had been injured and what he said had happened. He was very upset and anxious at bedtime and said that every time he shut his eyes he kept thinking about it. I told him that I would sort this out. The head spoke to the boys in the class about rough play and also the boy we have problems with about bullying. She addressed the school and the junior classes about rough play.
Thursday he came home and said that they had been playing a jockey game riding on each others back, but someone had the idea to stand on this tyre and try and push them over when they ran past. DS got hurt again even though this was just silly stuff and not directed at him.
I could not get him to go to school on Friday as he was crying with stomach ache, so called to speak to the head. She said that I needed to get him in and they would deal with the situation, get the school counsellor to talk to him as there might be some reason why he feels like this. There is!! he said that he is frightened of getting hurt again!! She suggested that they could try and work out a coping strategy and help him find the right words, but just feel they need to get tough and watch them more. She said that she didn't feel that the kids were getting too rough(I do) and this was no more than you would expect of kids this age (I disagree).
DS is very active and will not hang back and weigh the situation up, he thinks this looks fun I'll join in, he poss has some issues but was doing ok in class and ins't disruptive. Have wondered if there is something wrong with him as he will keep going back. Although head said they all play in one big group and in her op this tends to lead to more fall outs.
What the hell do I do???? I have managed to get him in today - he had tummy ache again, but when I got to school another boy in his class was crying at the gate and refused to go in. I think that this is linked. I am trying to keep a clear head but am angry and upset. Will either change school or home ed but am worried what effect this may have on him? My DD is 4 and due to start at this school in September.
Help!! - thanks for taking the time to read all of this x
Please or to access all these features
Please
or
to access all these features
Find advice from others who have experienced school or workplace bullying on our Bulllying forum.
Bullying
DS 7 Year 3 having lots of problems at school help!!!
10 replies
spudpudding · 19/05/2014 11:32
OP posts:
Please create an account
To comment on this thread you need to create a Mumsnet account.