Our 9 year old son is having quite a hard time at school. He has mild dyspraxia, which might have something to do with it, but for whatever reason he struggles to 'read' social situations and doesn't fit in with most of the other children as a result. He is clever, but quite geeky. He wants to be liked, but seems to find himself excluded and teased. He goes to a lovely school and I'm reluctant to call it bullying as I think he rather brings it on himself. Not by being unpleasant, but by hitting the wrong 'note' when he tries to make jokes/join in etc. For most of us, reading the signals and working out what is appropriate within a group setting is instinctive, but he seems to struggle with it. When he gets laughed at, he gets angry and hurt and over-reacts (from what I can gather - hard when one isn't there). My husband and I have tried to suggest he try to be more relaxed and easy-going about things - easier said than done I know. The trouble is he's a worrier and so doesn't feel easy-going. He claims the other boys make fun of him when he speaks and sometimes even stuff dirty clothes from the lost property box in his mouth. I will speak to the pastoral care person at school, but don't want to go in too hard accusing other children as my sense is that our son needs to work out a way to handle social situations better. It has happened in other situations too, so common denominator is definitely him. He is far more sensitive than it can appear and has clearly been bottling this up for some time. Anyone been through anything similar or can offer advice? TIA.
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My 9 year old son is getting excluded at school
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merce · 23/04/2014 13:59
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