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How did your school deal with bullying of your child?

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mummatotwo · 16/01/2013 23:11

just wondering how your school delt with any bullying, how did they nip it in the bud?

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plisplas · 17/01/2013 14:52

They didn't.

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WENDYEG57 · 18/01/2013 06:19

A familiar tale sadly. A teaching assistant recently said to me "Anti-bullying policies ae not worth the paper they're written on," 65% of young people say that when thy report bullying to a teacher, nothing happens. mummattwo and plisplas - what happened? I may be able to offer help and support (I hope so!)

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Branleuse · 18/01/2013 07:04

They spoke to my child, tried to find out the names of the boys - he didnt know, so they asked for the name of the house, and then the head of house of the bullys ran an assembly on bullying, and they allowed my ds to get his lunch a bit early, plus organised a buddy system with an older child who looked out for him for a while.
Not actually sure if anything else happened, as havent heard any more about it.
They have an orange card system too, so if any child needs to tell a teacher and they dont feel like they can verbally, they can write it on an orange card and post it. Not sure what happens past this point, but I assume something.

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WENDYEG57 · 18/01/2013 16:22

Branleuse-that sounds as if the school is dealing very well with it.

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Edith1 · 07/06/2013 21:41

Like plispas they didn't. This particular child also bullied another child the previous year and again the school did nothing. The words banded about by the school was 'kids stuff'. The bully child just so happens to be a governor's child - surprise surprise at the schools lack of willingness to act. Depressing - had no option but to intervene myself.

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Startail · 07/06/2013 22:05

Teacher A was useless told DD1 to stop fussing, your always loosing things.
Teacher B believed her, found her two lunch bags in places they were clearly hidden, kept an eye on the culprits.

Teacher B did a pretty good job of reducing these two boys antics for the next two years and of reining in some of the girls without pointing out it was mainly on DD1's behalf.

(DD1 is dyslexic and the sort of quirky slightly socially inept child who will get bullied. The worst culprit for bullying her simply wasn't taught its not big or clever to bully at home. His main carer seemed to think picking on DD for being different was perfectly acceptable Angry)

Senior school have always found DD someone to talk to if she gets a hard time and the odd detention has been doled out. Also they don't force DC out side at break, so DD1 was able to stay in the library and read and has ended up as a librarian.

She is now in Y10 and says the worst nastiness tapered off in Y9. She has grown up, a lot, she is way less easy to fluster and not as load. They have realised that they aren't going to get a reaction. Also DD1 has brains and sometimes she is actually useful to be nice to.

Most of all DD1 has a deep calm self confidence, she knows she pretty bright and she is a very good singer, which earns a certain amount of grudging respect.

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FunnysInLaJardin · 07/06/2013 22:07

yes, dealt with it very well, but it was very minor and they are still only 7!

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pennefab · 07/06/2013 23:16

After telling bully off for excluding child at lunch table for 5 days running (told off on Tues), school awarded bully "morality" headmaster award on Friday. Hoped that school knew about something in bully's life being amiss and giving child award to boost them. Unfortunately, if that was desired intent of award, went amiss.

Bully just as bad as ever. But shifted from excluding target to physically injuring target ("but it was accident, sir" or "but it was sports, sir" - little sh*t).

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formicadinosaur · 24/06/2013 23:12

Can you keep your child off school until the issue is resolved. Explain to the lea and school what you are doing. The school won't like the fact their attendance figured are being spoilt, so should in theory sort things out

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