Hi
Looking for advice on where to go from here.
What do you do when the Headteacher does not listen to parental concerns, does not appear to care about the pupils and when parents inform her they are withdrawing their children replies 'whatever' or 'I respect your decision' or 'I completely understand why', and does not attempt to keep them?
And sending a letter to the Chair of Governors is not an option. Her children are 2 of the worst bullies in the school. Along with the other governors children. I have known the governors for 4 years since my dd was at pre school. It has taken until last year for any of them to acknowledge me, and even then it is rare to get a smile or hello. We are talking complete blanking as if you don't exist. I am not the only one to experience it. They have had various names as a group from various generations of mothers and they have been together for years. They seem to see themselves as better than the rest of us, we see them as a group of women who never grew up and still act like a gang of clique teenagers. There are about 7 of them, 5 governors.
Due to the bullying in the playground/in school and nothing effective being done, no consequences to their behaviour, it continues. Teachers claim they see nothing, we are bemused as to how this can be, as some of it is really obvious. At times the Headteacher claims to have seen something different to a parent who has seen the same thing. Ie governors child pushes friends child to the ground banging their head against fence. Friend shouts at child (ok, should not do but it was a shocked 'fred!' not abuse) child runs off crying, HT follows that child to comfort them!!! Not to tell them their behaviour is WRONG.
Parents are taking their children out rapidly, 4 years ago it was bursting at the seams, now out of a possible 92 children we are down to 62. Another one left last week (that was down to education not bullying). I know of 4 other parents ready to withdraw children, all down to bullying and nothing being done.
I am concerned as it should be a lovely village school, with a family atmosphere, that is why I put my dd in. However the new head (3rd year), and I know new heads can get a hard time, is just not the right person. She makes it clear, as do the teachers, that we as parents are not welcome in the school. Every school trip the parents who go work at the school or are governors. We were invited to do things with the school to get involved in September, nothing has come of this (and that was down to a big row that kicked off at the beginning of term). We are at our wits end, I don't want my friend to leave with her 3 children, who ironically moved them from a school due to bullying, but what her child is getting now is worse bullying than she took him from!!!
HELP!!! What can we do? I fear if we speak up, the governors children will bully ours. It happens! The Chair's son goes round the playground telling pupils that his mum runs the school (he's in yr 5 and should know better!)
So I have 5 parents that are ready to meet up. If we have a 'meeting', what can we achieve with that? Do we go as a group to ofsted/LEA with concerns? Write individual letters to the school (non confrontational, laying out concerns) I do not want to do this it could potentially lead to bullying of our children, and the head does not want to listen and the governors children are the cause of bullying. We could go round in circles all day...
Sorry rambling now, its been a long ongoing situation and I just want my dd's to both go their and be happy. I don't want it to close. I want it to be a school to be proud of. Right now I would not recommend it to anyone.
Any advice much appreciated. Will be in and out all day so if you don't get a reply I'll be walking dogs/pre school run!! Thank you very much.
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Paperbacknovel · 14/01/2013 10:52
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