I'll try to not waffle, but I'm spending all weekend with my stomach in knots feeling like I could cry for my poor DD who is such a lovely, witty bright little girl.
Unprompted at the weekend, she told me, then dh, that a girl at school who I thought was her friend and lives really close so we see her out of school had bruised her knee and pinned her against a wall by her arms and called over a boy to punch her. I asked DD if she told a teacher and she replied no as she couldn't get away, and afterwards there was no teacher.
I've message dthe girl mum who I know asking if she could check with her d if they'd had a fall pout as DD had mentioned of this incident. The mum message back, said she'd asked her d and she'd said they play together, but what child is going to admit to it?? so I'm non the wiser on this route.
DD has preb had an incident where she was pushed around by another girl because she wanted to exclude dd from an ongoing friendship. I spoke to the head re this incident who got the girls together top show them some new changes in the school she thought they might like then talked about friendship and being friends, so that seemd to be sorted.
Basically, DD is a lovely girl, she plays nicely, all her school reports from nursery to reception class at school say how she has a fab sense of humour, very caring, sociable, pleasant.. so why the fuck is she getting bullied??? She's too nice, she's getting picked on because she's not a dominant personality.
DD s school has had nearly a full staff turnover in about 7 years, and reception teacher was fab, but in yr1 the new teacher is NQT, and she doesn't seem to have a strong management over the class (head picked up on this in my comments from the last incident where I mentioned DD had been hit and when she went to tell her teacher she couldn't hear her because it was noisy when they were getting ready for PE...)
The school is supposed to be a decent school in the area, but like any school it isn't immune from bullying
I t breaks my heart to think of DD having this happen at school, esp as she seems almost resigne dto being excluded from groups of friends. I help out at school and when I leave at breaktime I walk past the playground and dd is either stood next to two or three girls hoping to join in but often getting left as they drift off or just running round the playground by herself, if I ask if she had a geed day and mention something like 'Oh I saw you running round, you're really fast!' she'll say 'Oh I juystr run round by myself mummy, but it's ok I don't mind' (Im now sat crying typing this)
Dh is doing school run tomorrow and is going to speak to teacher, but tbh I'm fucked off that theres been lots of litle uiincidents particularly in this year and I want to take it further. I know the school is due an ofsted and don't want to have bullying on theirr ecords so I want to complain and have it recorded, but how do I do it to get action taken, be taken seriously and get help for DD?
Really really want help here. I'm going to have tea soon and have work to do, and I can't log on from work tomorrow so my responses may be a bit delayed but I really really would appreciate help with this
Thanks in advance, apologies for crap typing, due to beiung so cross and rubbish at typing..
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Heads / teachers / OFSTED staff? I think DD (6) is being bullied and I really need help.
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JoyceDivision · 25/11/2012 20:40
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