My DS2 has just started reception and has been picked on by another boy since he started. He sits behind him on the floor and nips him, pulls his arms and bruises them, steals things from him - his hat, a little toy he hid in his pocket to cope with homesickness, kicks him under the lunch table etc. He does this to at least a couple of other boys. I told the classroom teacher and thought it had stopped but the first day after half term he broke down in tears and said he has been holding it all in, that he hides in the toilet crying, this boy says he is going to kill him and he won't go to school any more.
I've have been positive and tried explaining this boy is also new to school, he is also scared and is lashing out and even though that is very wrong he isn't a bad person, told him I will have him moved away from him in the classroom and that he must tell the teachers. I wrote down the main points and spoke to his teacher yesterday morning who seemed sympathetic. I was very clear I wanted them separated in the classroom.
When I picked him up he said he hadn't been moved and was nipped and kicked again. I was furious and spoke to the teacher again this morning - I was very calm. She was defensive and, I felt, rude until she realised I wasn't going to blow my top. She said she hadn't moved him as I had not confirmed his hearing was okay - I had done before school started so this was a stalling tactic. She clearly had no intention of moving him.
DS was getting hysterical at the thought of being left so I calmly took him to the cloakroom to settle down but he couldn't. At this point the class started and I could see she had still not swapped the places around.
I said I was taking DS with me and we would come back when he was calmer and the places were changed. At this point the teacher hastily got her floor planner and started shifting people around. I told DS that we were going but that we were coming back and that this was a one off.
We left and came back an hour later, he was still very upset being left but understood that was the situation.
I am so angry with the teacher and now I don't know how to proceed. I hate seeing DS upset but felt he needed to see I was on his side, I don't know if I was right to take him out. The first day after I told her what had happened, I saw his teacher discussing it with another staff member and rolling her eyes, she obviously thinks I am over reacting. I am inclined to force DH to take time of work and go in tomorrow to have it out with the Headmistress. I don't know what I am more angry and upset about and can't make a rational decision. Help!
(Also I'm going to walk the dog try and calm down now so will be back later)
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jellyrolly · 08/11/2012 13:51
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