Hi there. My son (Y4) had a terrible time at school last year but now he is back in with his friends at school and much more confident. However this group of boys who were giving my son a hard time have now moved on to another boy and I think my son is joining in with excluding this boy at school. I have heard my son make nasty comments about this boy at home and on a school trip the other day.
This is difficult because this boy's mother is looking to my son (who generally has a repuation as a caring and gentle boy) to become her son's friend. After putting it off for a long time, I have finally agreed to a playdate. My son resents this as he does not want to be associated with this boy. I assume this is because he fears being bullied again and it's safter for him to be complicit in bullying the other boy. However, I can see also that my son has never liked this boy, who is much more boisterous and loud than he is.
How do I address this with my son? I have tried telling him to be polite and kind to the other boy and to remember how it felt for him when he was bullied but I am not sure this is working. Also, how do I talk to the mother of the boy being bullied? Should I make my son have playdates with someone he doesn't like or should I be honest with her and tell her I don't think they can be friends right now? I feel very sorry for the other boy as he seems to have real difficulty making friends. However, I also feel I should respect my son's wish not to play with this child. Help!
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MouseThatRoars · 23/10/2012 12:25
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