DD is in year 1. She has friends in another class but she's shy and find it difficult to interact easily with the group of girls in her class. There are only 4 other y1 girls in her class and they are close knit, socially adept, what I'd call alpha girls. DD is not. She is quite happy to rub along in her quiet way, but one of the girls feels the need to constantly assert herself around her. She will do things like; pushing dd if she thinks she's in the way, constantly ask her why she's staring when she's not, asking her why she's sitting somewhere, telling her she dresses after PE too slowly, commenting on her voice and what she's wearing etc The child is the 3rd of 3 girls in the family, confident assertive and friendly to her friends but not to dd. she is not the topdog of the class who is actually quite nice to dd. She's the top dog's best friend (excuse analogy).I spoke to class teacher in November. She was surprised to hear about it but put it down to a bit of bossiness.
I've told dd to tell teacher if this girl is very unkind, pushes her etc but she doesn't tend to as she doesn't feel confident that the teacher will understand.
Yesterday dd told me that the girl had come up to her and said 'Don't you like me?' DD replied, 'No' . I asked her why they'd had this conversation. DD said the girl had pushed her away so she couldn't use her peg. DD said that she thought 'Stupid girl I hate you' but she spoke her thoughts without realising.
I think this will turn into more sophisticated bullying when the girls are older. The other child has good enough social skills to get away with it. Schools talk about anti-bullying policies, practices but I'm not confident that these types of low level sly behaviours that girls are capable of actually get dealt with. I don't know what to do for the best. Thanks for reading.
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6 year old dd ongoing problems with one other girl. What to do?
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puffberto · 14/06/2012 10:36
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