I have a 13yr old DD. She's a lovely kind sweet natured girl. She's bright and wants to do well with her education. Sadly she's been a victim of what I call bullying for a long time - stretches back a few months. All began when she was simply being excluded from her group of friends.....friends she's had for a few years. They seem to just turn their back on her - a group of about 5 girls. DD has asked why and they simply laugh and look away. She has had the contents of her school bag thrown across the playground, including her personal items. She has been threatened in PE. She has had her back jumped on by a child and that same child has dug her chin into DD's collarbone leaving a bruise. These girls flatly refuse to talk to her, smile at her, even acknowledge DD exists. I have spoken to the school many times and each time they blame the sensitive nature of my DD which they feels makes her an easy target for the nasty behaviour. They have spoken to the girls and told them to be friends with DD, which they claim they are, and yet it never changes and if anything by the school talking to them makes it worse for DD.
Last week was the final straw. DD was burnt by one of the ring leaders during a cookery lesson last week. DD has a burn on the back of her arm. We complained to the school because there was no way it was an accident and could easily have been avoided. DD was questioned by school and she told them it was an accident because she felt it was the easiest way of dealing with it. When I asked her she claimed it was still an accident. I then suggested she put someone very close and dear to her heart (ie her younger sister) in her shoes and asked then if she felt it was an accident. She then broke down and said 'no, it was deliberate, but I had to say it was an accident because otherwise ** will hurt me even more'....DD is fed up with being questioned by the school and having the blame put on her by the school and has begged us not to contact the school anymore about any more incidents or, indeed, the burning incident. We promised this because otherwise we knew we'd lose our DD talking to us and feeling able to confide in us.
What do I do? She's had a dreadful couple of days since the burning incident. The girls will not talk to her, sit and giggle at her, pulling stupid childish faces and she spends her entire lunch/breaks on her own. Do I pull her out of this school now? HELP. :(
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nelehluap · 15/05/2012 14:06
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