I think my son is a bully

[Jofo]

Basically it has come to light that a boy in my DS's class (Year 2) is being bullied verbally by others in his class and we were told that our DS was not involved. I have, however, asked my DS about what is going on and he tells me that he is also calling the boy names and being mean to him. I didn't get cross as am more upset than angry and have asked my DS to promise not to do it again and to stick up for the other boy if he hears others call him names. The parents are friends of ours and I will apologise to them and ask my DS to also apologise to him and their DS. Is this the right course of action? Is there more I can do or am I over reacting?

[SenoritaViva]

I suspect the school is right, that your DS was not involved but in the 'pack mentality', or possibly being scared of it happening to him etc. he joined in.

I am sorry to say I did this when I was about 9 for a term. Actually, because this girl was bullied frequently I became to think this was normal and so fell in step with others in the year to 'fit in'. It wasn't till an adult sat me down and pointed it out to me (since it was out of character) that i realised it wasn't acceptable.

You sound like you did the right thing and have nipped it in the bud. Bullying should always be taken seriously and so I don't think you have over reacted but being a responsible parent. Well done.

[Jofo]

Thank you but still feel sick about it all. Will talk gently about it to my DS over the weekend but not over labour the point. I think that deep down he does know it is wrong as he wouldn't like it if it was done to him.