Two weeks ago Christine Blower, the general secretary of the NUT was reported as saying the following:-
"Some parents tell children that if they have been hit by another pupil in the playground, they should "hit them back next time", Christine Blower, general secretary of the National Union of Teachers, said."
"Of course that won't be, for the most part, the discipline and behaviour policy that operates in the school."
I have three concerns with such a policy:-
- Adults are allowed to use violence in self-defence; it is therefore appropriate to allow children to use it in self-defence too.
2a. It deprives the children of being hit of an effective response / deterrant if the school cannot enforce its policy, or:
2b. It teaches children learned helplessness by requiring them to let the school act instead of allowing them to act themselves:
- it results in a bullies' charter in effect.
My daughter is coming home with bruises on her arms and legs, and stories about another girl. She is only 5, and unable to express very clearly what has been going on. I am going to make an appointment with her teacher quite soon, but it does appear (from what I can tell) that the school cannot prevent the other girl's behaviour.
Assuming she is getting hit, do I tell her to hit back?