Ok. I don't know if I should react to this or not really.
My dd1 is 5.9, and has just done her reception year. State school, 30 in the year, a FT teacher, a PT teacher and a TA.
DD is not girle, she is more 'geeky'. She will probably always get on better with boys, until they exclude her because she is a girl!
But for now the friend she plays with most is a little boy, and she has no real friends apart from him.
I think this is ok, it's her personality type, and naturally the girls aren't too intersted in her. She won't join in their girlie huddles and just doesn't seem able to mx in their way.
Unfortunately she is making herself a bit of a target, I think. I asked her if she wanted a whole class party [which seems to be the current trend in our year] or just a few. Turns out there are 2 boys she wants to invite, and that's it.
I asked a bit more. Apparently one girl has been teasing her a bit.
So if dd1 asks to sit with her little boy friend, this girl will say 'no, we were here first and I'm not going to let you. you can't play with us'.
One of the other girls said she could play with them, and was happy to 'let her in', but this sort of ringleader whispered to her to that she wasn't to let my dd1 play with them.
From what dd says, I think it might be the norm.
I asked her if she felt she could tell this girl that she isn't in charge, and that dd1 can play with whoever she wants to. I felt it was important for dd1 to show she won't be bullied, early on. DD says she can't say that to this girl 'she is tough and strong and firm, and wouldn't take it' DD1 says she just went and played on her own and felt sad.
So what do I do? If anything?
I know this is normal girlie power struggle stuff, I'm very worried though. I can see exactly where it is going. DD1 will be more distant and cut off from the girls and less able to enter into their girlie world, and the boys will gradually grow bigger and not want a girl in their gang. It doesn't help that dd1 is fairly bright and into maths adn technology type stuff, so she's bossy and pushy and wants everything doing right,without actually being the type A personality leader you need to be to carrry it off!!! Playng families is her idea of hell.
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treedelivery · 07/08/2010 12:11
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