giving up long time bfing older child...advice needed.

[dramaqueen72]

could do with any advice here. just finally weaning my dd (19mths) from her last few comfort feeds. due to unexpected surgery we had to go 'cold turkey' rather than gradual weaning we had planned....(that sounds worse than it is; she certainly wasnt eating much, just the comfort sucking really. late evening and during the night.) this is my third night... and shes a nightmare. when she wakes during the night, she has never learnt to go back to sleep without feeding so its all hell breaking loose, with her thrashing and screaming, and so upset.... somebody tell me its not going to last long. i offer her water and/or cows milk all evening and its there at night too, if she'd have some, but she wont shes so upset. i cant lie down once she wakes during the night, cause she snuggles up to me and pleads for mumma milk (v heartbreaking) so i spend half the night with her either walking about or trying to soothe her back into her bed... is there something else i could do to help her? or is it really a case of sitting it out? i wanted to stop feeding, and i am determined too, but i am also tired of feeling so mean. not to mention her getting so cross with me. i can distract her during the day/evening but in the middle of the night shes not a happy bunny.

[HunkerMunker]

Oh hun, I'm sorry you're having such a struggle. You could try reading How Weaning Happens (a La Leche League publication) - it's really interesting.

Is it impossible for you to nurse her again? (I mean physically - obviously if you don't want to, then sit it out - I'm sure she will forget soon)

Big hugs xxx

[mears]

Can anyone else go to her during the night dramaqueen? Have you tried lying down with her but not allowing her access? Just keep telling her mummy's milk is all gone. She will forget about it eventually but it will be heartbreaking for a while. Would help if DP/DH could go to her instead of you.

[dramaqueen72]

well she slept ALL last night without waking. so i certainly going to stick at this. dh has got up with her a few times, but hes hopeless at getting up, and she always yells for me. i hoe we have 'cracked it' or if not, have nearly cracked it!!! thanks for your support ladies!

[HunkerMunker]

Hooray! Glad to hear it DQ. Hope she sleeps well tonight too

[dramaqueen72]

thankyou for asking and supporting! she did sleep well again. we still have trouble getting her to settle down at night, but hey, that can be another battle, another day! she is sleeping for a good 7 hours. absolutely unheard of for her EVER before i stopped b/fing. now i can catch up on 19mths sleep!!!

[HunkerMunker]

Hooray again! Go to bed (And tell me to do the same!!!)

[dramaqueen72]

go to bed! stop reading controversal mumsnet posts like i have been! some thigns we say here.....
well, dd asleep and now i am off to bed too

[HunkerMunker]

Yes, must go now Night hun!