DH was really supportive of my BF DS for a year and then we argued for about 5 months - him saying it was time to stop and me not wanting to or seeing any reason to. It was horrible and made the last 5 months of feeding almost like a guilty secret. DC2 is due in just over a month and we have had the same arguement again this evening. I am just so upset and feel this issue is going to colour the whole of the breast feeding time with our new baby. DH feels I won't compromise or negotiate and that I exclude him from the decision making but I don't see that we can compromise on this. If I stop when he says then I will feel resentful towards him about it. I hoped this would go away because I did stop eventually and I am sure I will again next time. I think the resentments just built up too much last time for either of us to talk about it rationally. DH is a brilliant dad and DS is now such a daddy's boy - they have a great relationship and it is so lovely. This really seems to be the only big thing we disagree about in parenting and it was only by a few months. I am so sad because with DS, DH was so positive about BF at the beginning and used to bring him to me when he was hungry and say things like - DS is getting a perfectly balanced meal.
Please don't all lay into my DH I don't really know what I want from mumsnet in relation to this - just to let off steam I think. I wish this hadn't come up now - or ever to be honest - BF was just such a happy experience until we started fighting about it.
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Nettee · 12/08/2007 22:13
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