BF and Baby Whisperer

[MegBusset]

I am roughly following the Baby Whisperer EASY routine with DS (3 months) 'cause it seems to work for him and means he isn't BF to sleep during the day. However, he will usually only nap for 30 mins and stay awake for 90 mins in the daytime, which means if I feed him after each nap he's eating every 2 hours. He seems fine with this, and it's not a problem for me 'cause he's an efficient eater (15 mins and he's done) but wonder if his feeds should be getting a bit more spaced out at some point? And if so how do I do this without messing up the EASY routine? Any advice welcome please...

[GColdtimer]

If it is working for you, I wouldn't change it personally. I think the EASY thing is quite good but I never managed to get DD's feeds more than 2/2.5 hours apart and so if you are not worried, I would leave it as it is.

[tiktok]

Meg, if the 2 hr gap is not a problem for you, and not a problem for him, I am not sure why it is a problem, sorry!

The pattern you describe is on the normal spectrum for a baby of this age.

Am I missing something?

[MegBusset]

No problem, Tiktok, just looking for some friendly reassurance

[Seona1973]

if your lo does start to not want to feed as soon as he wakes then it is perfectly ok to have some activity time before a feed as long as the feed is still seperate from the sleep time e.g. EASY-A-EASY

[Vmama]

that's exactly what i do Seona1973 and ~DS feeds every 3 hours on the dot -anyone know how many feeds a 3mnth old should be on? am wondering if i increase his day feeds if he will sleep longer at night?

[Kif]

the whole point of easy, as i used it, was that you used whatever interval is 'in sync' with your baby's needs. If it ain't broke I wouldn't fix it. The core is the sequence E-A-S-Y.

[magnolia1]

Ok whats the y for?? I can't be bothered to look it p and I want to go to bed but it will bug me

[tiktok]

magnolia, it stands for 'you', ie time to do something for yourself.

I am not a fan in any way at all of the Baby Whisperer, but of course it's fine for mothers to have time to do something for themselves

[baffledbb]

Y = you time when the baby is sleeping (allegedly)

[magnolia1]

Oh!
I have never read any baby care or advice books at all but seems like what you are doing MegBusset is what a lot of babies do anyway
Sounds very much like my ds1 (6 months) but it's him leading me rather than the other way round xx

[MARGOsBeenPlayingWithMyNooNoo]

Y = (in my house) You doing the washing up, hoovering, tidying, eating 5 chocolate bars (whilst standing - you don't put on any weight )

I did EASY for my 1st but not my 2nd dd (although the 5 chocolate bars is ingrained in my routine for evermore)

[GColdtimer]

I very loosly followed the EASY thing and yes the Y was definitely doing jobs. The thing I meant to say earlier though was that I think her bf advice is decidedly dodgy.

[tiktok]

twofalls, her bf advice is definitely dodgy.

[MegBusset]

Out of interest, why is her bf advice dodgy? I haven't actually read the whole book, just read about the EASY order and seemed to be what my baby naturally did. I am bfing on demand and that's that.

Also - I tend to spend Y either madly washing up / hanging washing out etc, or pushing the pram round the streets while DS does S!

[tiktok]

Hmmmm....where to start with the Baby Whisperer??

We could start with her weird notion that breastmilk is divided into three neat parts (quencher, foremilk and hindmilk - and quencher milk is not known to science in any form at all) and that these three parts are delivered to the baby according to the time he is at the breast (quencher is 5-10 mins, foremilk 5-8 mins, hindmilk 15-18 minutes....all incorrect).

We could continue with her idea that mothers should never switch sides - wrong. Some mothers don't need to, some mothers do.

I could go on. But just those bits of misinfo are enough in themselves to mess up someone's bf.

[magnolia1]

Blimey if that were the case, ds1 is doing well putting on tons of weight with just foremilk then coz he only feeds for 5-8 miutes most feeds

[charliegal]

Would like to say that I really regret trying to follow her advice at the beginning with ds. (with regards to bf). Luckily I soon gave it up, but felt pressured by her 'expertise' stance and dire warnings hidden in cosy Yorksire vernacular!

[babygooner]

I think its a useful book to get you to think about whether your LO needs a nap etc and to help you get some kind of vague structure to your day. But the BF advice is just rubbish and if you follow it to the letter you can end up feeding your LO every 1.5 hours if they only nap for 15 mins which is sometimes not what they want/need. And this whole, take your baby off the boob if its been there more than a certain amount of time because its just comfort sucking! That's the power of the multi purpose boob - food AND comfort!

[MegBusset]

Babygooner, that was exactly my concern - if I fed him straight after every feed it would be every 2 hours, whereas he will sometimes go quite happily for 2.5/3 hours between feeds, and I don't want to force-feed the little fella!

[magnolia1]

Thats why I don't buy any books, just feed when they want, sleep them when ever I can and Me time, Well whats that??