I am sat here in floods of tears so please bear with me if I waffle or go on a bit.
We have had various problems - painful start, TT that was cut, grew back and re cut, not sure of current status but good movement of tongue. I have battled with fast let down/oversupply and also DS is not a particularly hungry baby.
Despite this he has maintained 75th-91st centile so we've been doing ok.
But the last week or so he just screams at the boob and I think I have made it much much worse by trying to force him on in desperation. I am so scared I have given him an aversion that we won't be able to overcome :( although he feeds brilliantly at night, having gone from 1-2 night feeds to 4. I am exhausted.
When he was little, feeds were difficult so I prompted him every 2 hrs rather than waiting for hunger signs, and he has never been able to aim and latch himself, I have to do a manouver to get the nipple in! So I now feel like I don't know him at all and wouldn't know if he was hungry or not. Also, time has flown so fast that I haven't thought about the fact that he probably doesn't need feeds as often as every 2 hours. So I have been offering and he keeps refusing. It's got to the point now where he screams as soon as I put him in the cradle position, even if I think he is starving. He takes a few sucks if I can get him on, screams at the let down and then won't go back on. Even though I am sure he is hungry. Then of course he has a little fire milk, enough to tide him over, but he's never getting a good long feed in. God knows what its doig to my supply. I have been known try and hold him on by holding him really firmly and I think this has scared him :( can't begin to explain how bad I feel. Bf with ds1 was such a lovely experience and this is just a battle.
He woke at 7 today and has only fed for about 2 mins on one side so far, at about 8am when he went to sleep for a nap. At about 10, he started crying, I thought he might be hungry, offered the boob and he latched on initially but kept pulling off. he did this about 3 times before getting hysterical at the mere sight of my nipple and now he has fallen asleep in my arms. He probably drank a very small amount.
I just so want him to feed but maybe he just doesn't need that much milk. I am also extremely anxious that he appears to be reverse cycling as I am beyond tired and ds1 is missing out as I'm just an exhausted wreck. So I'm caught up in the idea of tanking him up in the day but that obviously isn't working.
I just don't know what to do. I suppose a long period of skin to skin might be an idea but that's hard with a toddler around as well. I need to get on with day to day life. Should I just not feed him until he's starving? How would I even know if he's starving? Wait 3 hours?
DS sees nothing comforting about bf with me and it makes me feel so sad :( can we over come this?
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