where is /isn't it appropriate to breastfeed?

(71 Posts)

I kn its legal to bf pretty much everere but is there places u wud of wouldn't ?
I have a 3 week old and a 3 year old however a am new to the whole bfing thing as I didn't bf ds1.
I have bf in front of most family and friends inc prudish dad who looked like he was gonna have a stroke and a lot in the car Mc donalds as it wad empty but yesterday I went into Costa , it was busy and I couldn't do it I left and went to toys r us where thet have baby change with comfy chair by myself . What wud everyone else do ? .

soupmaker Thu 24-Oct-13 17:24:00

I think it depends. My DD1 could be really fussy so I would find quiet corners to feed her so that I could be relaxed without an audience. DD2 feeds everywhere I go. My DD2 is 3 mo like yours OP. I have fed at the swimming pool but not in it. I don't feed in toilets as I wouldn't eat in one.

ColdTeaAgain Thu 24-Oct-13 20:19:27

Only situations I can think of where I would look for somewhere else to bf my baby are if it was too hot, too cold, too unhygienic, too loud, too windy, nowhere to sit down... Basically as long as baby and I are comfortable then I feed away and sod anyone who turns their nose up at it!

littleomar Fri 25-Oct-13 09:39:39

At the barber's, waiting for older DS's turn.

BerstieSpotts Fri 25-Oct-13 09:45:15

Huh? Why can't you BF at the barbers?

Obviously not while the baby's hair is being cut, that would be strange! And if you were having your hair cut then he might get covered in hair.

But while waiting for a sibling why not?

littleomar Fri 25-Oct-13 09:50:13

It's a proper men's old school barbers. I felt it was a bit unfair to invade their space.

BerstieSpotts Fri 25-Oct-13 09:51:20

What with your baby that you'd already brought in there?

momb Fri 25-Oct-13 09:55:31

You can BF anywhere you would eat or snack yourself: so a cafe, in the car, on the street, at home, on the beach, at the park etc all fine:
In a toilet, at a church (or other faith) service, in a swimming pool etc not ideal.

justalilmummy Fri 25-Oct-13 09:59:04

The bus! I am comfortable in feeding in 99% of places but theres something about the bus no idea what
Lucky for me my baby has always slept on the bus he likes the motions smile

Indith Fri 25-Oct-13 09:59:10

There honestly isn't anywhere that I wouldn't feed a small baby. A toddler perhaps I might not. For example I'd expect my toddler to allow me to finish my shopping/conversation etc before feeding but that is more to do with teaching my toddler manners rather than anything else! My small babies I have fed any time any where including walking round the supermarket pushing trolley with one hand and holding baby with the other and on the loo when at home and I really needed a wee mid feed and didn't have the heart to make the baby cry blush.

Indith Fri 25-Oct-13 10:00:35

Though I've got to say dd was a nightmare to feed and it involved a lot of screaming from her and tears from me so for a long time I pretty much only fed her at home unless I absolutely had to feed her when we were out.

sonu678 Fri 25-Oct-13 10:04:18

the toilet is the only inappropriate place I can think of to breastfeed.

so is the beach, and the swimming pool, but I think that is just me and my own freaky inability to put my lactating breasts into water shared by other peoples body fluids and then into my baby's mouth.

I have fed in all the obvious places likeshopping centres, on trains and park benches, school benches etc. But the oddest place was feeding whilst perched on a fence in disneyland paris until someone realised what I was doing, and gave me there place on a crowded bench to feed. smile

noblegiraffe Fri 25-Oct-13 10:07:04

While driving.

Indith Fri 25-Oct-13 10:12:18

grin that's true noblegiraffe. Though I have dangled boobs into carseats while still strapped in with dh driving.

GroupieGhoul Fri 25-Oct-13 10:13:32

I don't know why church should automatically be inappropriate, momb?
An adult, or older child knows they have to wait, but a baby has no concept of that. There were some weeks with my daughter wen I would leave early and feed her in the hall, and others when I would just stuff her up my jumper. More people noticed (and commented) when I left.

I say, feed anywhere you want to. Even in a toilet. It's not like you're rubbing the baby on the seat, after all.

Indith Fri 25-Oct-13 10:19:03

Most churches have statues of Mary cradling Jesus with her boobs out. Church is fine in my book.

dyslexicdespot Fri 25-Oct-13 10:30:36

Why would a church not be an ideal place to feed a baby?

rosiedays Fri 25-Oct-13 10:31:14

Good one noble grin
I've dangled boobs into car chair, but never whilst car moving.
Toilet is not ideal but meet requirements. .. seat and private.
indith I've been wondering when and how to start training boob manners?

GillyBillyWilly Fri 25-Oct-13 10:33:41

Anywhere that you would feed a baby from a bottle, you can breast feed.
smile

JollyScaryGiant Fri 25-Oct-13 10:35:33

You shouldn't BFwhile the car is moving as if there's an accident you will keep going and baby will go in the opposite direction so could get injured badly.

I will BF anywhere other than a moving car.

Indith Fri 25-Oct-13 10:42:28

I don't know Rosie really. I've just gone with their understanding and with when it starts pissing me off that they are digging my boobs out of my top themselves while loudly demanding milk!

My dangling into car seats is reserved for traffic jams when either stopped or crawling at snail with a broken leg speed. The sort when baby is screaming and you just want to get them out and feed but you can't pull over due to traffic jam and every time you think you might be able to get baby out you creep forwards another metre. When moving and a baby needs to feed we find somewhere to stop.

BerstieSpotts Fri 25-Oct-13 13:22:02

I did the dangling boob into car seat thing when DS was younger. When I actually thought about later I wouldn't do it. He's 5 how so long past!

flipflopson5thavenue Fri 25-Oct-13 14:05:43

I never did it on a bus or tube as I was worried about baby not being strapped into buggy in case of, ahem, derailment/crash... (coz these things happen ALL THE TIME.....) or just if someone knocked me or something.

Why not a swimming pool? Or do people actually mean not while IN THE water...? I've fed in the changing rooms.

Why not in court? Most of the time you can feed without hardly exposing any boob, so people don't even notice. Although I agree that not in the early days its not when its all new and worrying.

cantthinkofagoodone Fri 25-Oct-13 14:08:19

This is MN - feed everywhere, all the time... get those mammaries out! On a rollercoaster? No bother!

Just wherever you feel comfortable OP. At 3 weeks I wasn't very good at being discreet but I found a cover maintained my modesty.

MewlingQuim Fri 25-Oct-13 14:14:08

I bf my DD at my grandads funeral service :-D

JollyScaryGiant Fri 25-Oct-13 14:17:41

If you're particularly worried about flashing folk then it can be good to practice feeding in front of a mirror at home and you'll get an idea of exactly how little the general public will be able to see.

Join the discussion

Join the discussion

Registering is free, easy, and means you can join in the discussion, get discounts, win prizes and lots more.

Register now