Hello everyone,
Some background to my point: My lo is now 15 months old (DC4). Due to a severe illness on my part, we landed in hospital on day 4 when he had lost 13% of his bodyweight and ended up with jaundice. I was ebf at the time. He was topped up with formula at the hospital, we were released and upon our return, I persevered with breastfeeding. However, due to my illness and our bad start, I managed to only mix feed him (no idea really of the proportions of BM relative to FF). We did this for 6 months. It was tremendously hard and a (small) part of me is pleased that despite terrible adverse circumstances, I managed to get at least some BM into him. On the other hand, I am distraught. My middle two were ebf - for 2 years. My first - similar scenario to my last child - jaundice, so hospitalised - mix fed for first few weeks. However, I turned it around to ebf once home with her and we continued for two and a half years (I know, I know). I am desperately upset, guilty, sad, etc. that this latest breastfeeding relationship did not work out how I wanted. It's something that is haunting me and won't leave. I know it's in the past and the past can't be changed, but still...I don't really expect any solutions - just wanted to vent. HOWEVER, this leads me to consider just how precarious breastfeeding is. It seems that even small deviations from the ideal circumstances will derail it. In evolutionary terms, this is something that strikes me as very odd - it's not optimal for survival of the species if this vital behaviour is so very fragile. For example, if even ONE bottle of formula will affect supply, or if even a few deviations in timing of suckling at the breast will affect supply, then there's something wrong in evolutionary terms with breastfeeding. It would need to be more robust to work well, WHICH leads me to think that these difficulties with breastfeeding have always existed. SO - it's a pile of crap that we are given the message that 'in previous generations, breastfeeding was the norm' (you only need to look at maternal death rates in childbirth and postpartum to see that this is rubbish) AND women must have ALWAYS supplemented with non-human milk because I can't imagine that our current generation of mothers is so much worse at breastfeeding than previous generations. Have women always felt guilty when they couldn't ebf? Who knows.
Just venting.
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Mixed feeding - angry, sad, guilty
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fourmummy · 22/11/2012 10:32
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