Should I stay or should I go?

[Greeneyes87]

Hi there,

I am hoping for some advice regarding my current relationship. I am 26 and have been with him for 14 months. This is my first ever serious relationship and I am currently unhappy and am thinking about leaving. I love my partner and he is a great catch! I just am not sure if I can continue living like this.

I am bored with our sex life, but I can't tell my partner this. He always says that it is important to him that I cum, but he really doesn't try too hard. What I mean by this is he doesn't try anything new with me when I tell him I am finding it hard to orgasm. I want him to offer to touch and play with me. I want him to suck my breats and get me to touch myself. I just want him to try and really satisfy me in any other way then his usual boring routine.

I try and drop hints and have told him how sexually unsatisfied I am, but I don't think he gets that the problem is mostly him. I want to spell it out to him, but I don't want to be mean about it. I want passion and fun!

I lack confidence as it is and feel afraid about what may happen if I don't say that he is a boring lover. I am not sure how to break it to him?

He has children from a previous marriage that I am learning to accept, but I think I have decided that I do not want children as I resent his at times and do not agree on how he raises them. I do like the children and want the best for them. He only has them a few days a week.

He is also untidy and disorganised. I have told him how much his mess upsets me and he is putting in a great effort and is the cleanest he has ever been since I have know him. His kids are also getting better, but they all have a long way to go.

I just need to know is this relationship worth it? He has so many great points, but do these other issues outweigh the positives? He us funny, reliable, genourous and comforting. I am new to relationships and need to know what to do. Am I not prepared for a serious relationship with a messy boring man with kids?

Please help thanks.

[purplemeggie]

Go. If you're feeling sexually bored only 14 months into the relationship, then it's unlikely to get any better (unless you are prepared to suggest sex counselling, and he is prepared to go along with it.) You're only 26 - you shouldn't be settling for something that isn't quite what you want. And ultimately, it's not fair on him either: if you're not together, then you both have a chance of finding "the one".