Breaking the news

[red148]

I'm late and am getting some common early pregnancy symptoms. I haven't done a test yet. This will sound strange, after 2 years of trying, but I don't feel ready to do this test. I haven't mentioned to my husband that I'm late. He's always been of the view, 'if it happens it happens' and refused to get any tests done to investigate why we hadn't been conceiving. he's old fashioned/scared/i don't know. But now it's finally here, i actually feel quite alone and apprehensive about telling him. We would both have been ok not having had any but I suppose I wanted them more than he did. Are all men weird about this stuff? If i am actually pregnant, should i expect more weirdness throughout the pregnancy? How did your partners react to the news? were you surprised?

[Twinsplusonesurprise]

It's so daunting finally facing a situation you never thought would happen. We tried for 7 yrs for our DTs and when the last try of ivf worked I was so panicked and scared and then angry and guilty! It's such a rollercoaster. Perhaps you could test and then give yourself some time to absorb the result before you broach it with DH?

[red148]

it's just crazy - you spend years wishing it and willing it and now i'm actually scared. Told him last night that i'm late and his reaction was "ooh very good" and a wee (nervous) smile. that's enough for now. the seed is sown in his mind so i think we'll do the test together at the weekend. we've been so apart at times on this whole topic that i think we need to come together and face this as a team. I've been getting my own head round it - i think i know without even doing the test - i'm never late and the symptoms are undeniable. In my mind, I've already cleared out the guest room to make it a nursery. it all feels like a dream. Thanks for your message Twinsplusonesurprise - you can feel alone and these forums help so much.