Stop Bingeing and Start Eating Healthily Thread

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SnowyWellies Thu 24-Jan-13 06:21:40

Would anyone like to join me? I am a yo yo dieter, a failed WW (could not bear the small portions) failed SW (went wild on Free foods) and I eat too much of the wrong sorts of food. I binge then starve and I want to get out of that cycle. I also enjoy my evening 3 glass of wine a little too much! I feel bloated, pasty, tired and I hate how I look in the mirror. I am about to hit 40, and I refuse to spend any more time hating myself. I want to deal with my psychological food issues, and I want to finally be the woman I am meant to be.

I am 5 ft 2 and weigh 11 stone 3.

My aim- to increase fruit and veg. To cut out wheat as I bloat very badly on wheat. To take as much care over my own diet as I do over the diets of my children and my husband. To not treat my body like a rubbish bin.

As of this morning. I am tired. My skin is pale and blotchy. I am very bloated in the stomach. I am aiming to lose 24 pounds, but want to do it properly and without feeling deprived. I want to make this process luxurious, with a focus on gorgeous healthy food.

Today's plan:

Breakfast - fruit and natural yoghurt with a drizzle of honey.

Lunch - home made carrot and coriander soup.

Dinner - fresh veg risotto.

I need ideas for delicious alcohol-free drinks. Currently I love a splash of grapefruit juice and soda water.

Anyone want to join me? The focus is on good food, and to deal with the psychological issues around bingeing and self hatred. I am not a psychologist, just someone who needs- and can offer support!

Weigh in days will be Mondays and Thursdays.

Celestialstarlight Mon 04-Feb-13 14:04:28

Hi all and hello sunny

I think it sounds as though you are doing well and being mindful of what you are eating despite the odd little slip ups (well we are human afterall wink ) I think it's pretty natural too for weight to fluctuate on a daily basis. Which is why I think you are meant to weigh yourself at the same time with of day.

Well ladies, the scale batteries arrived and I took the plunge! It's official...I am now fatter than I have ever been in my whole 40+ years on the planet!
10st 8lbs and that was me standing on the scales first thing in the morning (at our lightest wink )

I am struggling with my willpower. I haven't had any wine in 1 1/2wks and I feel fine with that. I'm not missing it or feeling deprived or anything. So in that respect i'm pretty pleased with myself. But my issue now is FOOD! Arrrrgghhhh I cant help myself. I just give in too easily. I spend the whole day enjoying lovely healthy foods and then I just cave in. So on Saturday at work someone brought in cakes (again) so I had a slice. And then yesterday I settled down to watch a movie and binged on a snickers bar and half a bag of the large walkers crisps even though I knew I shouldn't be doing it. Oh, and I had more than a few biscuits during the day too.

Back on track again now! This morning I had
granola, banana and natural yogart
Lunch was butternut squash soup with a small granary baguette and dinner this evening will be chicken stir fry. I haven't managed to go for a walk today but I did put my slendertone Ab toner on for an hour while I did some housework.

Hope everyone is having a good day and woowoo hope the litte'un is feeling better soon

SnowyWellies Tue 05-Feb-13 06:58:48

Good morning all!

Celestial 10 stone 8 is my next mini-aim grin

I am also struggling with willpower so my plans this week are to make the best food choices available to me, to have as many alcohol-free days as I can fit in (tonight I have leaving drinks for a colleague- no WAY am I not having wine!) and to just mentally rest a bit. If I stay 10stone 13 this week then I will consider that a good outcome- it means the loss is real. I am aiming overall for a 1 pound loss per week, until I am 9 and a half stone. But I want it to be slow, steady, - permanent. Dinner last night was a delish white fish with stir fried veg. Have not decided yet for tonight. But I also need to head out and get some veg for soup.

MissWooWoo hope your dd is better.

Celestialstarlight Tue 05-Feb-13 09:49:59

Snowy I hope you have a lovely time this evening at your friends leaving party. You must have wine...it's the rules! grin

Yeah if I could lose 1lb each week i'd be really happy too but I don't think it's gonna happen this week following last nights crisp binge (the other half of the big walkers crisps that I opened the night before and the toblerone chunks from the remainder of the kids christmas choccies)

So we are about 2inches deep in snow just now and it's still falling. DH was so pleased with himself and proudly announcing "I have scraped your car for you" which was lovely until I discovered that DH had forgotten to take my car keys out of his pocket and are currently at work with him angry Thankfully DS1 came to the rescue and drove DS2 & DS3 to school in his car.

I haven't a clue what todays menu will be. Perhaps a chicken salad wrap for lunch but given the weather outside I'd quite like something hearty for dinner. Maybe spag bol.

Happy healthy options everone smile

SnowyWellies Tue 05-Feb-13 10:35:07

So jealous you have snow! I LOVE snow! (I am from a hot country originally and snow is a novelty).

I am having basic veg soup most of the day, then grilled chicken and veg and corn. I lost inspiration.....

Celestialstarlight Tue 05-Feb-13 13:41:54

lol snowy I wish I could share your passion of the snow but i'd chose a warm sunny climate everytime! Thankfully it has now stopped snowing given that I will need to walk to collect the boys from school this afternoon.

I too am stuck for meal inspirations. So think i'll stick with the spag bol option for this evening.

MissWooWoo Tue 05-Feb-13 14:07:22

afternoon all, this thread is helping me loads! Just writing that I thought I was going to struggle on my last post made me stop and think. I ended up having a really good day foodwise. Went out to lunch today and chose the butternut squash and walnut salad which was delicious and came with a green salad and a 3 slice of thick sourdough bread - I only ate 1 of them and felt completely satisfied! I really think "I'm making better choices" is a much better phrase to have in your head than "I'm on a diet" Snowy and planning is key.

Tonight I am having fresh mackerel, grilled with sweet potato wedges and spinach.

Hope you're all having a good day.

coolkat Tue 05-Feb-13 20:46:37

Don't mind the snow once a year but feel we have had this years quota! I am over winter bring on spring!!!

No bingeing today, also done shred again. Determined to do 10 lots of exercise before 15th. I am on 5.

Think I must be due onconfused

Hope everyone else is fine. Glad people are finding the thread helpful. I certainly am - just knowing I am not on my own.

Weds tomorrow which means half way to the weekend!!

MissWooWoo Wed 06-Feb-13 15:10:25

just stumbled across this website OMG! there are some delicious looking recipes on here ... drool, salivate and baked potato soup ladies, baked potato soup! So inspiring!

MissWooWoo Wed 06-Feb-13 15:11:41

oops! baked potato soup here

Celestialstarlight Wed 06-Feb-13 21:16:44

Hi ladies. Well I have failed in spectacular style again today. Chocolate cake at work and some All Gold and Thorntons chocolates and a bakewell tart. Then I got home from work this eveningand had DS1 left over pakora from his take away meal. And all that on top of my breakfast, lunch and dinner (which were all super healthy!) Why do I have no will power?

Also the scales this morning announced that I am now 10st 10. So have put weight on. Not surprised tbh given my extreme lack of resistance to food. I don't know how to combat this. Any ideas??

Cool I am super impressed with your shredding. And Misswoo Thanks for the link. I'm gonna check it out for inspiration smile

Right tomorrow is a new day. I will eat only tasty healthy options and get serious about shifting this weight for good!

Moca1 Wed 06-Feb-13 23:11:56

Hi all, can I please join ?. I am 3 weeks into my annual 'I am fed up with being overweight and not being able to wear half the clothes in my wardrobe' diet. So far so good with 8lbs lost. Hardest to give up is wine, bread, butter, cheese, etc etc. Have tried all of usual diets and like many of you just want to find a healthy way without the yoyo. What seems to be working just now is sticking to fruit , veg and meat/fish - no processed food. Not too difficult mon-fri but hard at weekends so trying to keep very busy. So good to know I am not the only one.

SnowyWellies Thu 07-Feb-13 07:22:28

Good morning! Welcome Moca1

I also fell off the wagon yesterday. Ate a lovely grilled piece of fish then had rounds of toast with butter.

I am also going to check that link out. smile

coolkat Thu 07-Feb-13 09:01:55

Hi ladies

Sorry to hear of gain hmm

I think small achievable goals is the way forward with a reward at the end. This has worked for me this past week. Today weighed 141.4lbs so small gradual loss. My target was 3 lb from 1 feb to 15th and 10 bits of exercise. I have been soon the shred all but 1 night when did a walk. I think as its a short term goal if makes it easier to tick off??

Have a good day smile

MissWooWoo Thu 07-Feb-13 13:03:49

I blame the weather! it's sooooo cold out there. The thing is Celestial life happens doesn't it? What a dull world it would be if we never ever again ate chocolate cake, bakewell tarts or pakora! As you said yourself tomorrow/today is a new day. How many times have you had a "bad" day when trying to lose weight and then the next day thought oh bugger this, it's never going to happen might as well have 2 bowls of radioactive cereal, a hot chocolate and half a packet of biscuits? The important thing is you haven't thrown in the towel. It takes a while to adjust bad habits.

Weighed myself this moring and have lost 5lbs since embarking on my healthy eating plan 9 days ago which I'm really pleased with and instead of doing my usual oh no only 5 lbs I've got so much more to lose sad I'm going to give myself a pat on the back and not put myself down by saying (as I usually would) well it's just water weight. I've been quite focused as I'm going away with my husband on Sunday for a couple of days and basically we'll just be eating and drinking! I really wanted to enjoy this without feeling "guilty" so have been saying to myself - actually no, don't choose that, choose this and then indulge on the trip away - maybe you need a weekend away Celestial to focus your mind wink

Movingforward123 Fri 08-Feb-13 07:56:44

Hi just found this thread and would like to join, havnt read through it all yet but will come back later grin

Celestialstarlight Fri 08-Feb-13 09:47:12

Well done Coolkat and Misswoowoo on your weightlosses. Yaaaay! And hello to Moca and Movingforward

MissW Great advice. Thank you. I was really starting to beat myself up over this and yesterday I had such a bad day that I stuffed my face with endless crap. But you are right. I'm not throwing in the towel and I just need to dust myself down and start again. Funnily enough I was just saying whinging to DH last night that I really need a weekend away without the kids. Desperately in need of a rest but it isnt an option for us at the moment financially. I hope you have a lovely time Missw A little romantic break sounds like heaven. Your effort is really paying off too. 5lbs is fabulous and makes such a difference. It is great to know that what you are doing is paying off. Well done grin

Mmmmmm snowy I love toast with butter!

Celestialstarlight Fri 08-Feb-13 09:49:16

...oh and I forgot to say that it is now 2 full weeks since I had any alcohol. Baby steps grin

feellikearubbishmummy Fri 08-Feb-13 09:52:01

Saw the title and thought this is right up my street. read OP and have to ask what do you put into fresh veg risotto? sounds lush> will read rest of thread now!!

SnowyWellies Fri 08-Feb-13 12:01:00

Hello! Sorry, went AWOL. I stuffed myself silly yesterday and became glum. Back to it today- sort of, but planning a takeaway.

welcome Movingforward and feellike!

Fresh veg risotto, I throw anything in really. But I really like asparagus and then fresh raw tomatos thrown in at the end with parmesan cheese. Another favourite is roasted butternut squash with cashews and spinach.

coolkat Fri 08-Feb-13 15:17:33

Not has a great day today. 1st day came of the wagon this week. Still one day as long as exercise later I should be ok. blush

coolkat Sun 10-Feb-13 07:45:11

Where have you all gone?! Come back smile

Hope your having nice weekends x

Celestialstarlight Mon 11-Feb-13 12:02:11

Sorry Cool I'm still here, although v. ashamed of myself given that I have stuffed my face all weekend.I really need to get a grip. Was working yesterday(12hr shift) and always fool myself into thinking that if I eat rubbish during work I will walk it off. I think I am just kidding myself on though. I don't take bisciuts or cakes to work with me but just recently there seems to be loads of nice treats in the tea room at break times which = me stuffing my face sad

Anyway the good news is that I haven't had any vino in well over two weeks so at least I'm managing to do something well...hooray!!

Rachtoteach Mon 11-Feb-13 22:30:20

Hi all, please can I come and join you? I am desperate to knock my unhealthy relationship with food (and wine) on the head. I am 5ft 2 and weigh 12 st 3.5. I have failed at every diet going, jeez the amount of times I've signed up to WW and SW is anybody's guess. I realise now that the only thing that will 'fix' me is to knock the yo yo/fad dieting on the head for good and adopt a completely new approach, for life. Oh and to admit that drinking 2-3 bottles f wine a week is not good. I am almost in tears writing this, I have a flipping wonderful family (hubby and 3 kids) and, to be honest, I feel like I'm killing myself with the amount of crap I'm putting into my body.

So, enough off the depressing talk, I'm so glad to have found you all and long may this thread continue!

I guess my strategy is going to try to eat as cleanly as poss so I will be keeping my eyes out for some recipes along those lines!

Rachel x

Vijac Mon 11-Feb-13 22:47:34

Ooh, can I join too! My baby is 15months and I still haven't shifted any of the baby weight. Reading this gives me an idea why. My current food intake (adjusted slightly for diet) is a lot more that the daily diets posted here. Clearly I need to reduce portion sizes-I'm not 21 and doing loads of sport anymore-but it's hard to kick the overeating habit. I weigh 13 and a half stone and want to lose at least two stone. Today I ate a breakfast: a carrot, apple and ginger juice and a bowl of Special K, Lunch: ate out a bowl of pasta with fried spinach balls and courgette, snack: hot chocolate and four mini eggs, few spoons of mashed potato while cooking, gym: Pilates class (low energy). Dinner: 12 inch chicken subway. Drink: hot chocolate.

SnowyWellies Tue 12-Feb-13 07:12:19

Good morning everyone and welcome rach and Vijac!. How is everyone?

Sorry for being absent... real life got in the way a bit this weekend and I also lost motivation completely.

I have not weighed myself at all, and at the weekend went to two parties and drank more than I should have..... at least 3 BIG glasses of wine at each. That is a bottle ffs. Ugh. I hate how I feel after that, so yesterday was a blissfully alcohol-free day. Oh..... and I had someone at the party on Sunday say to me 'Oh I heard you were pregnant again', while looking at my stomach and eyeing my glass of wine. I replied 'No, just having troubles shifting the baby weight from last time' and she looked embarrassed, but people have been congratulating me almost since DS was born.

And that is kind of the point for me really. I hate how I feel, and hate how I think about myself after eating too much and bingeing. I have gotten into the habit of eating everything in sight.... I need to get in the habit of making good and positive choices.

This week, well, I am going back to meal planning, but also to taking it not only day by day but meal by meal as I need to just get a grip.

Today..... I have absolutely no idea. I have no idea even where to start with what to eat and plan for today. So I am going to have a herbal tea and to think about it a bit.

Also- we are going away with my DParents in April... and DM always looks me up and down and comments on my weight and expresses approval or disapproval. So I am scared. (last week she thought it would be helpful to ring me and tell me all about the Paul Mckenna thing and how it would really help me. No DM, what would help me- and would always have helped me- is if you did not consider the only thing important to be my weight! ).

I also need to get a grip. I cannot continue to live like this, with all this self anger.

[screaming emoticon]

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