STRENGTH OF A WOMAN

[melliek]

For all of the women out there that has suffered the loss of their baby, be it miscarriage, still born, early labour, whichever; I wish to send these words to all.

When we think of being a woman, we think of our strengths, weaknesses, our sexuality, or even our compassion. Everything that goes along with the blessings of being a woman, but the one thing that comes to my mind, one of the biggest gifts that is bestoed to us is the ability to have life grow in us and give birth to it.

Now, for many of you women out there, if you are like me, you have suffered deeply in this department. I personaly have had six miscarriages, all under seven weeks so I have not truely felt life grow inside of me. Everyone of us have our own stories and pain that until the day that we die we will never forget. We will never forget the day, year, or hour that we have lost our little angels. No one knows nor can they possibly come close to understanding the pain and heartwrenching emptiness that we have and carry on with.

But, with all of this sadness I say to you who other than a woman could go through what we do and survive. Who else can carry on through life and still have hope and faith that when the time is right it will happen if it is meant to. God will only give us challenges in our life that he knows we can handel. So, what I am trying to say to everyone is that even though we suffer and never forget, never give up hope.

We are strong even when we feel that we cannot be and until the moment comes you do not realize the strength that you have inside of yourself.

The sun will rise and the sun will set therefore tomorrow is another day.

[jangus]

ALWAYS LOVED, NEVER FORGOTTEN

Melliek, I just want to add to this thread. Hope that's ok.

Today (4th) is the start of SANDS awareness week.

Can we spare a thought for all the babies that didn't get the chance to be all they could be.

Can we think about the families who are going through their lives wondering how it could (should) have been.

Can we look at our precious children and be thankful.

xxx

[melliek]

That is so true. Those words could not hit home any more than they do.

[jangus]

a wee bump for SANDS

[spacecadet]

, i have4angels in heaven.

[jangus]

bump for SANDS and all our little angels.

[Marina]

Bump for SANDS and all parents living with the death of a much-wanted, much-loved baby.

[soapbox]

At school this morning I found out that the mum of one of my DD's friends has lost her baby at 34 weeks.

I'm so gutted for her

I'll point her in the direction of SANDS when I next see her.

Off out to try and find an appropriate card

[QueenFlounce]

[jangus]

I hope she has plenty of people around to help her. Maybe you could offer for her dd to stay with you and your dd for a night to help out?
I'm sure you will get a nice card for her.

She might like this poem after a wee bit of time, it is one we got when we lost Lilli-Mae and I posted it in the Members Profiles.

Once I lived in my Mother?s womb
A place for me to flourish and bloom
And in that place I felt such love
Until the day I was called from above
The angels came and took me away
Because on earth I could not stay
But my Mother didn?t want me to go
Because she really loves me so
So I spoke to God and made a deal
That I could help my Mummy?s heart heal
And so God said that I could visit
But at certain times ? there was a limit
Now I watch her visit my grave
I send her courage to make her brave
And in the night when she cries
I am there to wipe her eyes
And when she sits and thinks of me
I am there sat on her knee
When she thinks that no-one cares
I am there stroking her hair
When it is hard for her to carry on
I am there to make her strong
For when you carry love in your heart
You never really are apart
Anon.

[Marina]

Soapbox, SELSANDS the SANDS branch covering our neck of the woods, is run by two wonderful women. There is support for your poor friend locally as well as nationally at SANDS head office. There is also a wonderful Bereavement Midwife at QEH.
Oh I am sorry to hear this.

[melliek]

Hi all...just a quick question. I am in eastern Canada, is there any association with SANDS over there...or anything close to?

[jangus]

sorry melliek, i really don't know. Maybe you could email SANDS UK and they would be able to help you.
\link{http://www.uk-sands.org\SANDS-UK
Hope this helps.
XxX

[jangus]

sorry
SANDS-UK

[Friendlygirl]

Meiliel, You have had 6 mcs all very early and you live in eastern Canada. I am a Brit who has had 5 mcs and 1 healthy baby and a diagnosis of Factor V Leiden. I thought you might be intersted in this

[Friendlygirl]

try again
chat show discussion

[Friendlygirl]

I sat this show. the lady's story sounded similar ro yours. I know that APS is hard to diagnose and that you may be told that you do not have it only to find out in a later more sophisticated test AT A DIFFERENT TIME OF THE MONTH from a specialist centre that you do. I have even heard that wearing an arm cuff whilst your blood is being taken for testing can affect whether you get a postiive or not. WOuld there be anything to lsoe for you to ask your doctor for baby aspirin and heparin anyway next time you are pg? I mean this in kinship - form one woman with mc history to another. I am in awe of your strength.

[Friendlygirl]

I don't mean to spook you Melliek - I have come across you before and have changed my name since then and can't seem to change it back. Your story has touched me.

[Uki]

hello melliek

saw the posted times article, and have been thinking of you since. How are you doing??? you are indeed a strong woman. Sure hope you have some answers to all your pain by now.

It is amazing how much they are discovering about m/cs. (re times article and others)I just had 11 viles of blood taken (after another m/c) 2 years ago it was 9 but now there are much more tests they can do.
Anyway hope you are ok. warm wishes twoulda6y ;rr.itteywan