I wonder if anyone's had a similar experience to me and would like to share their story.
My DM had been in poor health for many years, but collapsed at home and was rushed to hospital a week before I gave birth to my DS (PFB, now 10 weeks). She died three weeks later. We live a long way away so I was never able to visit her, and she was never conscious enough to talk on the phone. According to my DF, she did know she'd become a GM before she died, which is a comfort.
In some ways her passing was a blessing as she'd been in pain for many years and wasn't able to live much of a life. But she was only 59 and was so excited about becoming a GM.
I'm sad I couldn't talk to her about the (difficult) birth, my struggles BFing and generally share the ups and downs of becoming a mum with someone who not only understood, but loved me unconditionally.
I'm lucky to have lots of lovely friends and am close to (though not geographically anywhere near) my DF and DBro. But I find it difficult to talk to people about my feelings at the best of times, and certainly now! My DH tries but I think our relationship is suffering the strains of becoming new parents and we're not getting on well at the moment. I feel pretty alone.
To make matters worse, my PILs have basically cut us out of their life (very long story) so I worry about my poor DS growing up with only one GP (my DF). He's a lovely little boy and it seems so unfair. It also really upsets me that my DM never got the chance to be a GM and dearly wanted to, whereas PIL could but basically can't be bothered with us.
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DrKarg · 24/07/2014 01:47
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